25 Jul 2014
in Endometriosis, Family, Health
Tags: children, God, infertility, intimacy, ivf, love, Marriage, prayer
I had a conversation with a friend a few days ago about procreation and she said that she doesn’t want to have children. It was interesting because, she had reasons and even asked me why I want to have lil ones. Over the last couple of years, I have met a couple of people who do not want to have children and those who desire to have children but are having difficulty conceiving.
At some weddings, there is usually an aunt or uncle on standby to encourage the couple to have children. Soon after the wedding, the theme of all questions that you are asked is ‘when are the babies coming?’. You meet a random person on the street and the first question they ask is, ‘did the firstborn come?’ or ‘so have you named your parents yet?’ or ‘when is my son/daughter getting a playmate?’ The strangest one is when a woman (most times elderly) starts pointing at her stomach while smiling at you and you have to figure out that her question has nothing to do with hunger but everything to do with the assumption that the weight you have added is because you are pregnant. Sadly this gesture is followed by a ‘congratulations’. o_O whatever happened to just restricting small talk to the weather, better still, to greetings.
After a few years pass, the questions intensify. People keep asking when the little ones are coming and after a while you are not so sure if ‘soon’ is an appropriate answer. Yes, sperm meets with the egg and they fuse to form an embryo, but sometimes it is not that simple. For one reason or another, they fail to fuse let alone meet.
I first heard about Endometriosis six months before I was diagnosed from a lady who was having difficulty conceiving. After numerous hospital visits, the doctor told her that the cause of the infertility was Endometriosis. It was a condition she had never heard about but one that she needed to quickly acquaint herself with.
She had gotten married into a culture that placed a lot of value on having your own children. The fact that she could not conceive had brought so much friction into her home with talks of her husband finding a second wife becoming more frequent. It is not that her in-laws did not love her, it is just that they would have loved grandchildren more. The sex advice increased by the day, as her mother in law, a traditional woman and mother of 5, thought that the infertility had something do with technique (or lack thereof).
courtesy of trustinggodthroughinfertility.blogspot.com
The journey of infertility is a painful one that has more downs than ups. It takes a lot to smile and to trust and hope even when everything seems bleak. If this is your story, I pray that the Lord may encourage you and strengthen you. May He draw you close to Himself and wipe your tears. May He answer your questions, give you the desires of your heart according to His will, give you peace and love on you. In Jesus name I pray and believe, Amen.
If you know someone who is struggling to conceive, whisper a prayer for them and love on them in the way that you know how. Call them, send them flowers, give them a hug…just let them know that they are not alone.
23 Jul 2014
in Family, Friendship, Marriage
Tags: dating, Facebook, honeymoon, intimacy, living together, long distance, love
courtesy of balajitourtravel.com
The first year of marriage is sometimes the hardest. When you get home from the honeymoon reality hits home and the first couple of months can seem like quite the opposite of bliss.
My friend Mrs O, figured out how to make honeymoon a lifestyle rather than a stage in marriage.
We met on Facebook. Yes, social media can be useful. I knew him, but he didn’t know me. Childhood insomnia for him I guess ;) . But that didn’t stop us from talking. He was miles away, so Facebook and phone calls worked for us. Then he decided to return home (Kenya) and I was ecstatic but I didn’t want to give away my excitement too easy. We hadn’t started dating yet but we liked each other. A few movie and coffee dates later, and he asked me out.
A year later, he asked me to marry him. And seven months later, we were married. Many thought we were moving too fast, but we were each other’s answered prayer. However, it didn’t start out smooth. Many people say the first months are honeymoon months. For us, it was more of petty fights and arguing. Thing is, we weren’t used to living together. So the small things irked each one of us. He would piss me off. I would piss him off. But we eventually learned to appreciate each other’s differences. We were not the same. Our differences are what made us love each other. And once we realized that, it’s been honeymoon ever since :)
One thing that has kept us in love…is God. We pray together. But we also spend time with God on our own. Once you develop a personal relationship with God, you’ll know how to relate to your spouse. He teaches you how to love, how to care for your spouse and how to give without expecting to receive equal measure. Basically, a marriage founded on God and His principles, succeeds. Even after being blessed with a child, we still work towards our relationship.
Marriage is how you make it be. Tailor it to your needs. Just like a fingerprint, every marriage is unique.
Mrs. O :)
All marriages are happy. It’s the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.- Raymond Hull
Adjusting to living with someone else can be difficult and finding joy in the new living arrangement may seem close to impossible. It may take some time to get used to, but it gets better and the honeymoon can become a lifestyle.
18 Jul 2014
in Endometriosis, Health
Tags: endo, pain, painkillers, periods
I was happy go lucky girl, well, that was until I started my menses. It was one of those bitter-sweet moments; YAY to the fact that I was not a girl but somewhat a woman but NAY for the pain. Adolescence is a rather strange phase, when you start your period, you are now a ‘woman’ but not yet an adult. If I had known that the monthly visitors would come with that much pain, I’d probably have petitioned the heavens for more time of freedom. I guess early blooming had its cons.
I remember when I’d go the school nurse to get painkillers she would draw for me the female reproductive system and begin to explain how the cramps come about. In retrospect, I think a motion image would probably have worked better than her using her hands for emphasis. Her explanation was so predictable, hmm, maybe it was because I paid her a visit several times, every month. The long story was her attempt to somehow convince me that the pain was normal, so I should (wo)man up and stop being so whiny.
courtesy of medicalterms.info
It really made me wonder if the painful menses were preparation for the curse from the Garden of Eden, painful labor.
Since I didn’t have nausea during my menses I was made to believe that the pain was normal, in fact I was having it ‘easy’. It was just good ol’ PMS . Some women seemed to have it easier than others. However, the PMS theory begun to falter and could not explain why after a couple of years, the pain became even more unbearable. It would literally disrupt my schedule. For instance, one day I would be walking and I couldn’t walk anymore because there was a sharp pain in my abdomen at a different time during my cycle. After months of visiting the E.R, specialists and even having a surgery that was quite useless and misguided (story for another day), I found a doctor who finally made the diagnosis.
The diagnosis was Endometriosis.
“Endo what?” you may ask…Endometriosis (en-doh-mee-tree-OH-suhs)
Well in layman’s terms, it is a condition caused by the lining of the uterus known as the Endometrium growing outside the uterus and on other organs and structures in the body.
Endometriosis is most commonly found in the:-
- Fallopian Tubes
- Outer surfaces of the uterus
- Tissues that hold the uterus in place
- Lining of the Pelvic cavity
- Bladder Rectum
The main symptom of Endometriosis is very painful menses. These can be confused as just regular PMS, however if the pain persists, it is a good idea to seek medical advice.
Other symptoms include:-
- Chronic pain in the lower back and pelvis
- Pain during or after sex
- Intestinal pain
- Painful bowel movements or painful urination during menstrual periods
- Spotting or bleeding between menstrual periods
- Infertility or not being able to get pregnant
- Diarrhea, constipation, bloating, or nausea, especially during menstrual periods
Some times there is more to painful menses than the PMS theory. If you know anyone who suffers from period pain and any of the above symptoms, please encourage them to visit a gynecologist for a check up. There could be more to it than meets the eye.
**Endometriosis information courtesy of http://womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/endometriosis.cfm#a**
15 Jul 2014
in Family, Friendship, God, Marriage
Tags: battlefield, disappointment, God is Able, my heart, nagging, transformation
“Living together is an art. It’s a patient art, it’s a beautiful art, it’s fascinating.” – Pope Francis
I love that quote.
Living together is a beautiful experience, sometimes it is easy while other times it is hard; adjusting to the changes can be a little difficult. Being confined in the walls of your home tends to magnify the little problems and it can make the ant hills look like huge mountains with volcanoes waiting to erupt. No one is perfect and it is possible to think that you can change certain aspects of your spouse and even attempt to do it. However, this venture is usually followed by utter disappointment.
There are wives enter marriage with the notion that they have a special super power that they can engage to change what they dislike about their husbands. See the woman in the picture below :) . Some opt to fight their spouses and repeat what they dislike over and over again hoping that the nagging will cause lasting change. Many times, this just makes the home a ‘battlefield’. The ammunition is the hurtful words exchanged.
courtesy of christianpost.com
I have learned to conserve my energy and fight my battles where it matters. Fighting my spouse adds very little value, so I get on my knees and pray. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like I am doing much to help the situation at hand but the reality is that some things are actually beyond my control. Even if i tried to change the situation, I would not be able to make a difference. So I leave the issue at the feet of the One who can do exceedingly abundantly above all I could ever think, ask or imagine. The One who sees more than meets the eye; the One who can change the hearts of men and women; the One who can truly intervene and restore what has been lost.
courtesy of zazzle.com
I’ve seen the Lord transform my home through prayer. Many times, He changes my heart and I begin to realize my heart was actually the problem and not my husband.
Don’t give up on God, cause He wont give up on you. He’s Able.
After all is said and done, it turns out that there actually is a special power. Prayer is the special super power :) It yields results. They may not be the ones that you were hoping for, but they leave you in a better place than you were before.
The most amazing thing about prayer is that you don’t have to be emotionally connected to an issue to pray about it. If you’d like me to whisper a prayer on your behalf regarding family, marriage …etc feel free to drop me a line on firstname.lastname@example.org and I will trust God with you. He’s able.
11 Jul 2014
in Family, Friendship, Intimacy, Marriage
Tags: family unit, good man, Jesus take the wheel, the good wife
The first thing that comes to mind when I think about the good wife is Alicia Florrick. Thanks CBS :) . The title of this series was so intriguing only to realize the story line was a little different.
When you are getting married there are so many voices telling you how to be a good wife.
courtesy of s288.photobucket.com
What I have learned in the few years that I’ve been married is that ‘good’ is relative. To one man, a good wife wakes up, fetches water, warms his water and takes it to the bathroom. as he showers she irons his clothes and as he dresses, she makes his breakfast. For another man, his wife wakes up at 5:30 am to cook his lunch because he doesn’t eat food cooked by anyone else and he doesn’t eat food that has been in the fridge. For another man, a good wife brings in half the income to the table and they go dutch with the bills. The list is endless.
A few weeks ago I told my my husband, that my confidence does not lie in the fact that I married a ‘good man’. He is a sweetheart who treats me really well :) . The truth is how ‘good’ a person is or isn’t will not keep them on track. Good is just so relative. It is not resolve, it is not incentive to run when the adulteress comes with her smooth words (Proverbs 7). It is just there. Instead, my peace comes from the fact that I married a man who follows God and seeks Him and His ways. I see the power of the cross in his life. He is accountable to God before He is accountable to me.
The same applies for me, I have stopped being fixated on the ‘good wife’ label because sometimes she gets overwhelmed by life wakes up on the wrong side of the bed (sometimes even under it) and becomes a quarrelsome wife. Y’know what Proverbs says about her, aye? She is likened to constant dripping on a rainy day; a nuisance. I want to be a woman after Christ’s own heart first and a wife second. I’m accountable to God first before my husband. The fear of God is what will keep me on track ; the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.
My love for Him makes ALL the difference in my love for him.
I thank God for the beautiful journey that marriage is :).
08 Jul 2014
Tags: anger, confusion, curve balls, disappointment, raging emotions, script
Yo, sometimes life just doesn’t go as planned, whatever the plan looks like anyway. Sometimes it goes off-course and starts throwing curve balls in your face; you never really see them coming. The curve ball could be the loss of a loved one, heart break, sickness, loss of a job/opportunity, or betrayal etc.
courtesy of britneyking.com
Change is the only constant. When you think you know how the script is going to unfold, out of the blues something appears and it throws a spanner, heck , the whole tool box into the mix. The result? Pain, confusion, anger, resentment…the list is endless.
I remember when my dad passed away my world came to a mini stand still. The days that followed were filled with raging emotions and disillusionment. Oh, did i mention questions? So many questions and emotions flooded my mind and heart. There were some good days and some plain old horrible days filled with heart wrenching sorrow.
What I’ve learned from the curve balls is that at the end of the day God remains God. He doesn’t owe me anything…this is such a humbling but freeing truth. I am here by his grace. The world and all that is in it belongs to Him. He numbered my days before I were born. Nothing I do or say can change who He is. The circumstances may cloud my judgement and perspective of Him but they do not change who He is. He does not move from his throne…He remains sovereign.
No one is immune. Life is not a respecter of persons when it is dishing out the curve balls. If you are in it’s way, it just hits you where it hurts. In the midst of it all, it is important to remember that He remains God. He is too great to be defined by my circumstances or by what I lack or what I have. In the season of plenty and of lack He is God alone. He is God, in the midst of the joy and the pain.
May your circumstances not limit your perspective of Him or draw you away from Him. Instead may they draw you closer to Him. He is the comforter, the healer, the provider and the author and finisher of this life.
He is God.
04 Jul 2014
in Life, Purpose, Society
Tags: Approval of men, Motivation, Servant of God
Life can get super busy and when the stress of life hits home it is easy to temporarily forget what motivates you. Between the burn out and the never ending demands on you, it seems easier to avoid asking yourself the hard questions.
- Why do you do what you do?
- What drives you?
- What is your motivation?
Is it for the approval of men, so that you can get a pat on the back and some praise here and there? Or is it for the approval of God,who may not give you an evident ’round of applause’ or show you the full picture and may keep changing the brief to get you out of your comfort zone?
What motivates you determines the path that you take.
If you feel you have veered off course, it is time to check what is currently motivating you.
Paul knew what motivated him and why he did the things he did. He knew that because He was trying to please God he could not twist the gospel to become something else. (Galatians 1:6-10)
Galatians 1:10 NIV
Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of God.
If the approval of men is what drives you then you may miss the mark. Reason being, you will always have to alter your course to ensure that you remain within their set parameters. The voices of men will influence you and you will always seek their opinions. You will consider what they think of you before you act and their ‘conventional labels’ may make you afraid to step out in a direction that opposes what they advocate for.
A servant on the other hand, serves at the pleasure of his master.
This means that everything the servant does is to bring pleasure to His master, though he may not understand.
A life fully yielded to Christ as Lord means that sometimes He may ask you to do seemingly outrageous things that do not quite adhere to social ‘norms’. For some it may be that He asks you to leave your well-paying, high-flying job to do something that is not quite considered ‘work’ by society. This is based on the limited monetary returns of the work. However, at the end of the day, you’ll find that if you seek Him first He will add all the other things to you. Granted, they may not all come at the ‘ideal’ time based on human timelines but they will come in His time.
Remaining a servant of God takes a daily renewal of the mind. You have to keep reminding yourself that God is the master of your life and understand that only HE can truly satisfy you.
May God give you the courage and boldness that it takes to always be His servant, to live a life worthy of praise from God. The truth is that men may not understand your path but neither do they understand the calling that you received. They may raise their voices regarding your path of choice but at the end of the day you serve an audience of ONE. His praise is the one you desire.
30 Jun 2014
in Life, Purpose
Tags: faith, Obedience, Proverbs, Timing, wild animals
- courtesy of http://www.tenthamendmentcenter.com
We are half way through the year. Wow, it seems like it’s been a ‘long-short’ time.
At the beginning of the year, I thought 2014 would go a certain direction. Man, I had PLANS! It turned out that God had plans too ;) and His are the ones that prevailed. Truly a man plans in his heart BUT it is the Lord who determines their steps (Proverbs 16:9). God’s course was not the one that seemed easiest but in retrospect i’m glad that I stuck it out. I’m wiser than I was 6 months ago, this next half i’ll be spending less time fighting God. I mean, there is no use fighting a losing a battle :).
I had a a conversation with a friend couple of days ago about a great idea that God had placed in their hearts, but they were a bit intimidated and did not know where to start. As we spoke, it hit me that it is very possible to remain awe-struck by the gems that God places in our hearts and forget to act on them. Sometimes when we try to act, our minds make excuses about why we can’t quite begin immediately.
Proverbs 26:13 NIV
A sluggard says, “There’s a lion in the road, a fierce lion roaming the streets!”
The excuses are sometimes very funny, I mean what would a lion be doing on Kenyatta avenue? I must add, there are stories of wild animals walking on main roads a few years back but let us work with the ideal situation that wild animals live in parks.
Uncharted waters are usually the hardest to venture in to. However, we need to be courageous.
1 Corinthians 16:13 NIV (emphasis mine)
Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be [wo]men of courage; be strong.
What does it mean to be a man or woman of courage the rest of this year?? What are the steps of faith that you need to take? Sometimes all you need to do is TRY, you never know, the outcome may just surprise you.
Last week I was challenged, I attended a funeral for a little angel in our midst, one whose time on earth was a lot shorter than we’d all have desired. My take out was that time is NOT on our side (well, at least on this side of eternity). Each new day is a gift. Our days are numbered and nobody knows when they will be called back by the Lord and time is not a guarantee. So, really, we are living on borrowed time and at the end of the day we will have to give an account.
2 Corinthians 5:10 NIV
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.
May your checkpoint reflection at the end of the first leg of 2014 help you in the second leg. Before we know it, December will be here and it will be time to look back at the year that was.
May you walk in courage and take the steps of faith that you need to this second half.
My prayer for you is that your latter will be greater than your past. May you let your light Shine that all may see and give glory to your father in heaven. (Matt 5:16)
16 Jun 2014
in Family, Friendship, God, Intimacy, Marriage
Tags: daily choices, family unit, Work
I’m a firm believer that if we fixed the family unit, we’d have less problems in society. It’s easier said than done, aye? The reality is that family is an institution not really respected by many. However, that does not mean that the family unit has to continue to struggle…family can flourish but in order for that to happen we have to fight for it.
Getting married is the easy part, yes, coordinating both sides of the family, setting a date, dealing with the suppliers and experiencing the big day have nothing on staying married. Saying ‘I do’ in action every single day is where the work is.
Some times this means making some hard decisions for the sake of the family unit. For instance, taking a lesser paying job so that you can be more present at home. You don’t start being a ‘family’ when the children come, it begins on the day that you vow to take each other as husband and wife, to have and to hold (y’know how the rest goes). Some say that they will make adjustments once the children come, but the big question is, what will the state of your home be when the said children come? Will you be two strangers living together for the sake of the children?
The small things count, for instance how many times do you talk to your significant other in a day? Are you too engrossed in other meetings that you forget to call/text/chat them the whole day? Sparing a few minutes to talk to your spouse can make all the difference. I’ve learned that scheduling communication helps to ensure that it is not over-looked. It sounds a bit boring, but if you schedule all important meetings then talking to your spouse should make it to your schedule. The best thing is that it also helps you pray for your spouse in real time as the events unfold, and prayer does change things.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
Have you set aside time to regularly spend time with your spouse? with your children? Do you guard your time together? Do you pray together? A family that prays together, stays together.
Family is such a powerful tool, it intimidates the devil. The reality is that the he does not want your family to work. His tactic is simple:- Steal-Kill-Destroy. So he will start by stealing your time together (all of a sudden ‘important’ things come up and family time is what is sacrificed), then he will kill the joy in your home (it will be like walking on egg shells in your own home as love and laughter begin to wane) before you know it…he has destroyed it (your happy home is but a distant memory). (John 10:10)
Invite the Lord to help you choose to stay married daily and to help you build your home.
Psalm 127:1a (NIV)
Unless the Lord builds the house,
the builders labor in vain.
Take your place and fight for your family. Make the decisions that need to be made and watch your marriage and family flourish :) .
Have a blessed week,
11 Jun 2014
in Family, Friendship, God, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Uncategorized
Tags: Friendship, God, love story, Marriage, Mills & Boon
I really like hearing love stories :) especially real life stories. They are much better than Mills & Boon and soap operas in my opinion, especially when you see them unfold before your eyes.
Some people think that there is a ‘right time’ to fall in love, but sometimes love just happens, sweeps you off your feet and as they say ‘the rest is history’.
I asked a friend of mine to write about getting married young, and this is what she had to say….
Soooo where to begin. I was never one of those girly girls who imagined and daydreamed about how my wedding day would be, what I would wear etc… In fact I barely paid attention to boys in high school. I never did think that I was ready to commit to someone, still had a lot of growing up to do both spiritually and mentally.
The ironic thing is, I met my husband in high school, though we did not know each other that well. He came for one of the prize giving days and I asked him for his number (not with any intensions lol) and we began talking once in a while. I would flash him (which meant hello those days on a student budget :-)) but he would actually call back and we would talk for hours without realizing the time passing. He was such great company. We became really close friends and that is where the feelings came from. One day we realized that we fell for each other somewhere along the way.
Things progressed and we started dating. We had so much fun together and complemented each other. He always challenges me to be better, is a leader and most importantly God comes first in his life. My mother was always telling me not to let go of him lol. We enjoyed dating and grew closer and closer, by the time we were getting married that was the next step in our relationship, saying goodbye every night was getting harder and harder. He was my best friend; I was looking forward to beginning our lives together. Getting married young was a bonus because we get more time together :-) , to grow old together.
Marriage two years down the road has been such a blessing. Growing together and enjoying each other’s company. Learning new things about each other (that never stops I tell you) and evolving together has been an amazing journey, and I look forward to doing it for many more years to come.
One thing I shall say about getting married young is that one must really be grounded within themselves and always keep God as the head of your life and your relationship for a three stranded cord is not easily broken :-). You must accept your partner for who they are, and stop trying to change them subconsciously. Be there for one another and make an effort. Oh and enjoy the little things :)
Don’t let life’s stereotypes dictate your love story, let the Author of your life write it and guide you accordingly.
22 May 2014
Everybody needs some T.L.C once in a while.
Yup, some Tender Loving Care.
I guess for some, that ‘while’ tends to take a little longer than others. In the midst of the busy 8am-5pm work schedules and the 5pm-8am home schedule(this home schedule is a full time job) it is possible to lose yourself in the hustle and bustle of life. The to-do list can easily become your master.
I chatted with a friend of mine a couple of weeks back and she said something that caught my attention:-
“Lately, i’ve been doing a lot for me for a change.”
It got me thinking….its easy to drown in the 8-5 and 5-8 schedules, lose yourself and never do anything for yourself. My friend does nice things for people, but she realized she needed to channel some of that energy to herself. The results? Beautiful! A few seemingly ‘drastic’ changes here and there, lots of little changes everywhere, NOW she is much happier and glowing. The Joy :) comes from the inside out.
I read this verse in a new light yesterday:-
Song of Solomon 1:6 (ESV)
Do not gaze at me because I am dark,
because the sun has looked upon me.
My mother’s sons were angry with me;
they made me keeper of the vineyards,
but my own vineyard I have not kept!
Emphasis on the last two parts of this verse
they made me keeper of the vineyards,
but my own vineyard I have not kept!
It’s easy to get so consumed by doing nice things for others and taking care of others and forget to do the same for yourself . Yes, doing something nice for your husband reflects on you and is sort of for you in the long run (y’know, you are ONE et al) BUT it isn’t quite for you. I am not advocating for selfishness ;) instead for some self love-love your neighbor as you love yourself.
The thing about being busy is that you get so wrapped up in doing and sometimes it is so easy forget about being. The challenge is finding a balance between doing and being and not letting what you do define who you are.
Who are you when the titles, schedules and to-do-lists are taken away?
What are your interests, dreams and desires?
When is the last time that you spent time exploring one of the above?
Many women have bucket lists full of laundry items. These have sadly replaced their dreams and desires.
This week take some time off and do something nice for yourself. If it’s been so long that you barely remember what used to make you happy begin to think about it. Write the list of the things that make you happy and then take it from there. When you create your to-do-list, schedule one of the above items first, and then put all the other things in the blanks remaining. You may realize that blocking out 30 minutes each day to build that skill you’ve always desired or pursue a hobby you’ve always had may make your dream become a reality much faster.
I’m taking the challenge as well and next week i’ll post my progress on the little project.
Love is Kind, be Kind to yourself :)
15 May 2014
in Family, Friendship, God, Marriage, Uncategorized
Tags: faith, Friendship, Jesus, love, Marriage
*crawls back from the hiatus*
I hope you’ve all been well. That was a much needed break, it’s great to be back.
I recently celebrated my second year anniversary :) It was such an amazing day just looking back on how far God has brought us. I’m amazed at how my joy and love have increased during the two years. I remember my glee during the wedding day but it hardly compares to my current joy.
A friend recently told me that when many women hear the word marriage they internalize wedding. So they plan for the big day and then wake up a few weeks after the wedding wondering who signed them up for their current reality because it was not spelled out in the ‘fine print’ of the marriage certificate.
Marriage is a beautiful journey, like anything else it takes work. It is rather interesting how people are willing to sacrifice and invest time and money in to their businesses but expect their marriages to blossom yet they put in the bare minimum. Hmm, I wonder how the same business would look if the bare minimum was put in. Marriage takes work, yes, some effort has to be put in.
I’ve been able to sum up the last two years in to 2 pearls of wisdom, both of them revolving around LOVE. These are lessons that I intend to carry with me.
1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul.
God must remain God in your life!
Married or single, His position is not up for grabs.
A man or woman cannot and should not take the place of God. In fact the notion that marriage fixes people is just skewed, that is Jesus’ job. Instead of looking to your spouse to be your everything look to the third strand that holds together your three strand cord.
The truth is your spouse cannot fully satisfy you. He or she is limited and just a human being, so it would be unfair to expect that from them.
Thankfully, if you let HIM be the center of your marriage, He leads you in the way of His perfect love.
As a woman, it is so easy to want to look to a man to be your all, to fulfill a desire much bigger than him. The truth is “Imperfection can never ‘fix’ imperfection to produce perfection.”
It would be so sad if I looked to my spouse or marriage to define me and tell me how much i’m worth or who I truly am. The Potter knows the pot’s true worth, unless you as the ‘pot’ look to the ‘Potter’ to tell you who you are, you may believe all sorts of wild allegations and become many things to many people.
Marriage is like a mirror, it reflects the true contents of your heart. If anything, once you are confronted by the truth it should lead you back to God because He is the only one that can transform your heart and lead you in the way everlasting. (Psalm 139:23-24)
2. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Now read: Love your Spouse as you love yourself.
(This assumes that the you have first loved God with all you are, let Him tell you who you are and received His love for you.)
Luke 7:47 (NIV)
“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven–as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”
Marriage is a ministry that can leave you feeling very dry if you do not drink deeply from the source. If you have little to give you may end up feeling overwhelmed and stretched. It is difficult to give what you have not already received.
A wise friend of mine once said:
“There is no room for selfishness in marriage.”
I’ve pondered on this statement for several days, just thinking about how it actually looks in MY marriage. Marriage is about doing to my spouse what I would like him to do to me, it has nothing to do what I think he does and doesn’t deserve. It is about finding a way to love him (read: be patient with him, kind to him, not envious of him….ref: 1 Cor 13:4-8) as I would like to be loved. If I seek to love him this way and he does the same for me, there is no need for either of us to be selfish. This takes a daily resolve to make a conscious decision to love like Jesus does. At the end of the day, the fact remains: WE ARE ONE ; the more the reason to love him as I love myself.
Marriage is a humbling and rewarding experience.
With God, marriage works. I look forward to many more years of learning to love as Jesus does and being the best helper for my spouse.
03 Apr 2014
in Friendship and Marriage, God, Intimacy, Life, Uncategorized
Tags: Friendship, God, Jesus, love, Marriage
In the world today, very few people would choose to be alone. The pressure to get hitched bombards you from all corners, for some, it is strongest from within. Few people desire to be alone because they think that they will be lonely. Yet, it is very possible to be in a relationship, even married and feel lonely (that is a blog post for another day).
In the Garden of Eden as Adam named all the livestock, he found that there was no helper suitable for him.
Genesis 2:20-22 (NIV)
So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
Once Eve was presented to Adam, he called her the bone from his bone, and flesh from his flesh! He declared that she will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man. This explains why a man will leave his mother and father and unite with his wife and become One. (verse 23-24)
In today’s culture as a bride-to-be on the journey to the aisle, you receive a lot of information from women from different walks of life. Some bridal showers have scarred single women for life and for the soon to be wives if they do not have a sieve they are likely to be very lost and misled in their first days or even years of marriage. In retrospect, I realize that there are a few ‘tales’ i’d heard and failed to sieve.
Below is an excerpt from one of the conversations that my husband and I had early on in our marriage:-
“The world through various avenues tells women what men want and women ‘blindly’ believe them and never ask the one man that they are married to what he really wants and how she can genuinely be a suitable helper for him.”
I realized that it was possible for me to apply ‘lessons’ learned from old wives tales, yet marriage is not about being a helper to men but a suitable helper to one man, the love of my life.
1 Timothy 4:7 (NIV)
Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly.
Below is an example of how applying stereotypes in marriages looks from dealing with a house help I had recently.
One morning as I was giving her instructions on what and where to clean so that she could understand what I wanted done, she interrupted me to tell me that she will clean just how she cleans at a mutual friend’s house. I was a bit taken a back because she probably does a great job at the friend’s house but it was wrong for her to assume that the work in both homes was exactly the same. For her it was not about tailoring her household services to suit my homes’ needs but just to get the job done.
The same logic applies, get to know the husband of your youth and know what he desires so that you can be the most suitable helper for him. It is not about what makes men tick, but what makes your man tick, what makes him happy and helps him live in purpose.
May you be the most suitable helper for your spouse.
06 Mar 2014
in Family, God, Intimacy, Kenya, Life, Purpose
Tags: faith, Jesus, love, Obedience, Timing
Can you imagine if you achieved something great in your lifetime yet your lineage knew nothing about it? What about if you found the greatest thing in life and even attained wealth, but your descendants lived like paupers yet it was all there for them to partake of? Wouldn’t it be sad if the significance of your name, title, wealth and accomplishments would mean nothing to those who are ‘ideally genetically predisposed’ to learn from you, by virtue of being in your family?
Reading the book of Judges this week both saddened and challenged me. I was so taken aback by the fact that a whole generation came to be and did not know what the Living God had done for Israel. These were the grandchildren of the Israelites that God saved, yet they had no idea. In fact, if anything, all they did was worship idols. They did not know that their ancestors saw the Red Sea dried up to make way for them to pass. One would think this would be the main story that is repeated (and exaggerated-if at all that is possible) by the family fire at night.
Judges 2:10-11 (NIV)
After that whole generation had been gathered to their fathers, another generation grew up who knew neither the LORD nor what he had done for Israel. Then the Israelites did evil in the eyes of the LORD and served the Baals.
My children and their generation, need to know what God did for my generation and I. So, I have vowed to write it down and have something that I can physically pass over to the next generation. I don’t want the stories of the might of God to be lost in translation like in a game of broken telephone . No, the message is way too important to be watered down.
I have learned that people do not have to see to believe. Just hearing of what God has done can change the destiny of a family and a nation.
Case in point:-
Rahab the prostitute
What led her to give the spies a place to sleep is that she had HEARD what the Lord had done for the Israelites and from hearing she feared God.
Joshua 2:8-11 (NIV)
8 Before the spies lay down for the night, she went up on the roof 9 and said to them, “I know that the Lord has given you this land and that a great fear of you has fallen on us, so that all who live in this country are melting in fear because of you. 10 We have heard how the Lord dried up the water of the Red Sea for you when you came out of Egypt, and what you did to Sihon and Og, the two kings of the Amorites east of the Jordan, whom you completely destroyed. 11 When we heard of it, our hearts melted in fear and everyone’s courage failed because of you, for the Lord your God is God in heaven above and on the earth below.
The testimony helped her live in obedience to God’s will. You realize that she did not have to stop being a prostitute to hear or to believe…but the power of God worked through the testimony. Her hearing and believing saved her family and worked in the favor of the Israelites.
There are many people who do not know God. They have not seen Him or experienced His saving power, but you have and there is power in your testimony. You never know, it could impart the fear of God in them and cause them to believe.
Personally, I have heard and I have ALSO seen.
Job 42:5 (NIV)
My ears had heard of you
But now my eyes have seen you.
May generations be changed from our testimonies of His love, grace and might.
03 Feb 2014
in God, Life, Purpose
Tags: God, Jesus
I had an interesting conversation with a friend last week. As we were in different cities, we had the same ‘eureka’ moment :) It is interesting how, being ONE body translates to being ONE in the Spirit. The Holy Spirit’s revelations transcend boundaries – we do not have to be in contact for Him to speak to us, He speaks at His own time.
As we shared our revelation, it was almost as if we were copying each others notes lol. Below is an excerpt of our conversation with a few edits here and there:-
“I have read the book of Genesis many times, I can tell you from the top of my head what He created on the 1st to the 7th day. It is one of those things that is ingrained in my memory. It is easy to scheme over Genesis 1 when re-reading it…because…nothing really changes. However, over the last couple of days, I have read it over again. As I read it, IT HIT ME. What God creates, He Calls. For example, He created the light for the day and then CALLED it the SUN. The God who created you, is the One who will call you to be what He wants you to be.”
He doesn’t label us, instead He calls out purpose in us.
I love this song, Jonathan Nelson-Called to Be. It is my response to the call.
What has God called you to be? What is your response to His call?
It has been one year since my husband and I took a step of faith to be what God called us to be. We set out on an unknown journey in response to His call. We now testify that we have seen His love, power, grace, and strength. When He calls you, He goes ahead of you like a pillar of cloud and pillar of fire ….We can sing of His love forever. Responding to the call is the best thing that we did.
We will be what He calls us to be. We say yes…yes. We agree. We agree to walk in our destiny, to live out the purpose that He created us for.
28 Jan 2014
in God, Intimacy, Purpose
Tags: Jesus, love, Obedience, religion
Yesterday, as I drove towards the city center, I saw three sheep crossing the road all by themselves. They were headed towards the mall, not quite the place that I would have picked for them to go but …. maybe they just wanted to catch a movie or have some Italian ice cream at Robertos :). They didn’t stop for cars, or cross at the zebra crossing for the matter….they just stuck together and crossed the road diagonally, talk about using the longest route possible…but they are sheep,.. what was I expecting.
It got me thinking about how lost we look and feel when we are not being led by the shepherd. God doesn’t refer to us as sheep by mistake or as an insult. After watching man, He concluded that they are indeed like sheep desperately in need of a shepherd. When we walk without the shepherd we look like lost sheep in the big city. Always running from one thing to another and crossing roads in a haphazard manner.
It is easy to be a happy sheep when the shepherd is leading you to nice green pastures and there is increase all around you. However, when he leads you to a quiet season especially when you feel as though you should be elsewhere, it is easy to get disgruntled. Quiet seasons lack visible activity…they are just silent.
Psalm 23: 2b – 3a(NIV)
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
What I have learned is that in those quiet seasons, He is stilling me and refreshing me. Though I may not see it, He is working behind the scenes.
I love the Amplified version of the verses above:
He leads me beside the still and restful waters.
He refreshes and restores my life (my self);
Refreshment is not something you can see easily but after a while you begin to feel it. Those quiet seasons are the perfect conditions for Him to work on your heart and refresh and restore you as a whole.
It is easy to get discouraged by the silence, but instead joy should be your portion. When you stop fighting being in His presence you start to enjoy being in His presence and His joy captivates and satisfies you.
you will fill me with joy in your presence,
16 Jan 2014
in God, Intimacy, Purpose
Tags: circumstance, faith, God, Jesus
How big is your God? Noooo, I mean, really, How BIG is your God? Who is He to You?
I am reminded of the story of Moses and Pharaoh. Moses (a murderer to some) was sent down to Egypt to save the Israelites from Pharaoh. When He inquired of the Lord what He should tell the Israelites, this was the Lord’s response:-
Exodus 3:14 (NIV)
God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you.’”
So, hold up a minute…..YOU ARE? Like THAT IS IT????? Walk with me here, God could have chosen to say, I am the Lord Almighty, Creator of the Heavens and the Earth…but He didn’t. Reason being…that IS NOT ALL THAT HE IS. ‘I AM WHO I AM’ summarized a God that our brains cannot fully comprehend into to 5 words that COMPLETELY describe Him.
He ‘finitely’ described His Infinite Nature :)
For Pharaoh to truly have known the infinite character of God it would have meant Him dying and going to paradise. Christians who follow God, and even live on the mountain praying, still cannot fully comprehend the infinite nature of God. That is why God following God is not a boring journey. Once you know Him as the Saviour then you know Him as a friend, then you know Him as a healer and a teacher and the list is endless. Our beings cannot fully fathom all that He is, that includes even the most brilliant of minds. He is All these things and more ALL at the same time. He does not struggle to multi-task ;).
This afternoon, I stand in AWE of I AM.
Still on Pharaoh, He just didn’t get it…Y’know, I AM WHO I AM didn’t sound like a super hero, bad guy or a nephilim. He just sounded like another being challenging his decisions. This explains why Pharaoh kept taking Moses on a joy ride. There is a song we used to sing ever so passionately in Sunday School called Let My People go. See the first verse and refrain below:-
When Israel was in Egypt’s land,
Let My people go!
Oppressed so hard they could not stand,
Let My people go!
Go down, Moses,
Way down in Egypt’s land;
Tell old Pharaoh
To let My people go!
However, the day that Pharaoh saw the power of ‘ I AM’, he set the Israelites free to go and serve their God (Exodus 12:30-31)
Again I ask, How BIG is your God? Have you limited Him to just one attribute of His character? Have you allowed Him to show you Who He is? Do the circumstances in your life make Him seem smaller and smaller each day?
This year, I urge you not to limit God. I urge you to trust Him wholly and pursue Him solely (not as an option but as Your ALL).
courtesy of richesandglory.wordpress.com
Ephesians 3:20 (Amplified Bible)
Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]—
Trust God for the thing that even makes you laugh (because it really is your wildest dream). He is able, nothing is impossible for HIM.
Take the finite limits off. He is infinite. He is God.
02 Jan 2014
in God, Intimacy, Life
Tags: circumstance, God, Jesus, love, Obedience, resolutions
Happy New Year :)
For those who believe in setting resolutions, the time is here. Setting them is usually the easy part, seeing them to the end, well, that is the difficult part. I have heard various suggestions on how to make 2014 resolutions different. One person said that the best thing to do is pick out one area that you would like to grow in. For instance: ‘Health’ this means that you will find ways to be emotionally healthy, physically healthy, have healthy relationships (with boundaries) and have a healthy relationship with money. This saves you from having too many resolutions.
I have found that the thing that works for me is to set mini goals without calling them resolutions, I think that label sets me up for a struggle :) yup, it is all in my head.
A friend of mine told me that the one thing that she has resolved to do this year is:
Not to give God any excuses.
This statement really struck me. I was a bit taken aback, it made me think about all the times that I have given God excuses. Every time I jump off the wagon(fall off makes it seem like it was an accident) I make up an excuse and just expect him to understand it. After all, He is God and is far away-this is such a flawed way of thinking (I must add) because though He may not be ‘visible’ in the physical dimension HE IS HERE WITH US.
There are times that the excuse is so unnecessary…For instance, saying that I am too young to do a certain thing yet His word is very clear.
1 Timothy 4:12 (NLT)
Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.
Not seeing ourselves through His lenses may make us to think less of ourselves and make excuses. When God asks us to do something, we should just get on with it and do it, because, excuses enhance disobedience.
This year I purpose not to make excuses and just do what He requires of me. Obedience is truly better than sacrifice.
I wish you the Lord’s blessings as you start this year. May you hear His voice leading you in the way that you should go and may goodness and mercy be hot on your heels.
30 Dec 2013
in God, Life
Tags: circumstance, faith, God, love
Over the last couple of days I have had time to reflect and analyse the year that was. 2013 was a beautiful year. It had many good days and a few really difficult ones. All in all, it was a great year, one I doubt that I’ll ever forget. It stretched me, taught me many life lessons and rooted me deeper in Christ.
My main take out from 2013 is: THE LORD IS FAITHFUL.
Psalms 36:5 (ESV)
Your steadfast love, O LORD, extends to the heavens, your faithfulness to the clouds.
When the year begun, I did not know the direction it was going to take, but I ‘blindly’ followed God; I walked by faith and not by sight. In retrospect, that was the best decision I ever made. He LITERALLY became my only option. I learned to fully rely on Him and trust Him. It has been a beautiful journey. My perspective on life has changed, the Lord has enabled me to see things from His lenses. Amenipa macho nione sawa sawa.
This is my testimony:-
I been given a land for which I did not labor and cities you I not build, and I dwell in them; I eat from vineyards and olive yards I did not plant. (Joshua 24:13 Amplified, emphasis mine)
Lamentations 3:22-23 (ESV)
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
Psalms 16:2, 5-6 (NIV)
I said to the Lord, “You are my Lord;
I have no good besides You.”
The Lord is the portion of my inheritance and my cup;
You support my lot.
The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places;
Indeed, my heritage is beautiful to me.
I may not know what tomorrow holds but I know my God is faithful. Nothing is impossible for Him, He holds my world in his hands. There is no one like God in all the earth.
Blessings to you and yours.
May you taste and see that the Lord is good in 2014 and may He enlarge your territory.
17 Dec 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Marriage, Uncategorized
Tags: circumstance, God, love, Marriage
I find it rather interesting how women get married with the belief that they are able to change their husbands. The general notion is that once she is his wife, she will have more ‘control’ over what he does or doesn’t do. It doesn’t take too long before she figures out that this thought pattern is flawed. Granted, she may convince him to drop a habit or two here and there, however, the change may not stand the test of time.
Proverbs 29:18a (NIV)
Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint.
The truth is, if your spouse does not understand and internalize why he should not do a certain thing, he is not able to restrain from doing it. The revelation is key. Interestingly, there are some things that only God can reveal to us. A revelation from God brings lasting change.
Wives can be very convincing without speaking.
1st Peter 3:1-2 (NIV)
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
Having an impact in your husband’s life is not so much what you say but what you do.
Proverbs 21:9 (NIV)
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 27:15 (NLT)
A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.
The desire to change your husband may drive him further and further away. Before you know it, you lose the friend you had in him and all he is to you is a ‘less-than-perfect-project’. In light of the bigger pictiure, some things are really not that important, spend your energy wisely.
Prayer changes things. Instead of repeating yourself and quarreling, pray. God is in the business of giving revelations. Before you know it, your spouse will transform, all for the Lord’s glory.
A quote from a wise man put this into perspective for me.
‘Couples start enjoying marriage when they stop trying to change each other.’ ~Dr. Okaalet
04 Dec 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Purpose
Tags: circumstance, faith, God
Fire tests the purity of silver and gold, but a person is tested by being praised. (Proverbs 27:21 NLT)
Praise is really what tests a mans heart and motive. It is not uncommon for pride to creep in where praise is given. It usually seems as though praise makes room for a bigger ego, soon pride checks in and the world is supposed to come to a stand still of sorts for the man.
The usual response to excellence is praise. Even Paul and Barnabas were praised when they did great things (i.e according to Acts 14).
In Lycra, after Paul healed a lame man and he was able to walk, the crowd around begun to praise him and Barnabas. Their conclusion was that the ‘gods had come down to them in human form.’ In fact, Barnabas they called Zeus and Paul they called Hermes because he was the chief speaker. They even went an extra mile and brought bulls and wreaths to the city gates because they wanted to offer sacrifices to them. When Paul and Barnabas heard of this they were distraught, they tore their clothes and rushed into the crowd shouting “Men why are you doing this? We too are only men, human like you. We are bringing good news, telling you to turn from these worthless things to the Living God, who made heaven and earth and sea and everything in them.”
Paul and Barnabas were desperate for God to be seen. They tore their clothes in protest, so that they could stress that their glory was to bring Christ glory. The crowd needed to divert their praise to the King of Kings, creator of all things.
How desperate are we that Christ is the one seen? Do we always divert the attention to Christ or do we divert it selectively, when it pleases us?
Our lives are meant to give God pleasure and make Him smile. As the Psalmist prayed, may we pray….
Psalm 115:1 (NIV)
Not to us, Lord, not to us
but to your name be the glory,
because of your love and faithfulness.
May we always give the glory to the one who deserves All the glory, praise and honor.
29 Nov 2013
in Family, Friendship, God, Intimacy, Life, Patience
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, love, Timing
Yesterday, I celebrated Thanksgiving with a couple of friends. It was a lovely time of food and fellowship. The food was delish, my taste buds were in a very happy place :)It was nice to have an American in the room to give us the history of thanksgiving.
When it was time to share what we are thankful for this year, people became very pensive. I guess they had to look back and sift the great and the not so great to see what they were thankful for. As we shared what we are thankful for,something struck me, it is very possible to keep asking God for things and forget to give thanks. It is easy to take the things that the Lord has done for granted. His grace is the reason that we wake up each day in good health, with a roof over our heads, clothes on our backs and food on our tables.
It seems easier to thank God for the big things but He is the God of both the seemingly small things, and the big things.
Before you write down your dreams for the next year, sit down and look back at how good the Lord has been. Thank Him for the things that He has done and the things that He is doing.In a big or small way, you have tasted and seen that the Lord is good. He deserves praise.
Psalm 34:8 (NIV)
Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.
You may not be where you want to be, but that does not change who He is.
He desires that thanksgiving is a part of our lifestyles and not restricted to a once-a-year affair.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NIV)
give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
Have a lovely weekend.
19 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Purpose, Worship
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, God, Jesus, Jesus take the wheel, love, Obedience, Timing
‘Be careful what you ask for, cause you just might get it all’ – Chris Daughtry
Many times we ask for things but we are not quite sure what it is we are asking for. The fine print (that we ignore) is usually a detail that comes back to ‘bite us’ where it hurts.
The prayer ‘Jesus take the wheel’. It seems appropriate at the time. I mean Jesus comes in, saves the day and all is well. A couple of days later, He directs this car (read: your life) up the steepest hill to the North. All this time you were coasting down hill headed South-West . Then you are up in arms saying that this was not part of the plan. Yet, you asked Him to come and take the wheel. Maybe some clarity is needed. How long do you need Him to take the wheel? Is He taking the wheel of your life to get you where you want to go or get you where He desires for you to be? These are fundamental questions that need to be asked.
Proverbs 16:9 (NIV)
In their hearts humans plan their course,
but the Lord establishes their steps.
This song below is one that I have learnt to sing as I really think about what I am saying. It is not about the hype or emotions tugged in my heart.
God uses people in different ways. In human folly, some purposes seems more noble than others. However, the one that the Lord calls us to is the one that He desires for us to do. When I think about the way the Lord used Ezekiel and Hosea I realize that their purposes were not easy, the Lord took the wheel and led them to His purpose for the sake of His kingdom.
Are you willing to let Him fully take the wheel? To some extent, our plans must entertain God :) Most of them are usually headed in the opposite direction of where He needs us to go. He is such a merciful God, who takes us as we are and leads us in the way everlasting. Jesus is truly the best shepherd. His sheep can trust Him to guide them to the place He needs them to go.
His grace is sufficient.
18 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Marriage
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, faith, Friendship, God, Jesus, Marriage
What if you had it all?
What if you had your dream life complete with your ideal family, house(s), car(s) and all the gadgets you could possibly desire? What if you were successful, famous and you had achieved self actualization, would you be sated? It is interesting that with material things, you can almost never have enough. There is always a desire to amass more wealth and keep upgrading. You get a new car and as you are driving out in it, you see another car model and want it.
David was a man who had it all. He was doing well by human standards. He had money, power and success.
However, David knew that all the wealth and success meant nothing if he did not have the Lord.
Psalm 16:2( NIV)
I say to the Lord, “You are my Lord;
apart from you I have no good thing.
David was able to distinguish between the things he owned and the good thing. He was not sated without God. The things he owned could not fill the God shaped void in his heart.
David’s thirst for God was real. He understood that nothing else could satisfy.
Psalm 42: 2 (NIV)
My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.
When can I go and meet with God?
It is interesting how socialization can lead you to believe that you can get sated with God. A ‘bare minimum’ bar has been set. Think of it like a relationship. If you knew your spouse, that is, everything that there was to know about them, would you still be interested in spending time with them? At some point it would be like reading a book over and over again. It would start off as your favorite book in the whole world and after some time, you would know the story word for word. Thinking that you know your spouse completely assumes that they will always remain the same and never change.
It is the same thing with God. God is alive, there is more to know about Him each and every day. Our human minds cannot fully comprehend the magnitude of God. It is rather sad to think that a weekly ‘dose’ can satisfy or sustain us. He is the only one who can fill the God-shaped void. Only He can truly satisfy. The things are nice to have, but the truth remains, without Him there is no good thing.
15 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Patience, Purpose
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, God, Samaritans, Timing
I really like road trips :) They are an adventure-you never quite know what to expect. Surprises come in different shapes and sizes, from changes of weather to punctures. All in all, the end destination is usually worth the whole journey, regardless of the mishaps and drama along the way.
The same rationale applies for life. Some times we set out on a journey with the end in mind. On the way, as we are getting things ready, mishaps happen.
The disciples were not exempt.
As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. And he sent messengers on ahead, who went into a Samaritan village to get things ready for him; but the people there did not welcome him, because he was heading for Jerusalem. When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?” But Jesus turned and rebuked them. Then he and his disciples went to another village. (Luke 9:51-55 NIV)
I really like the disciples. They were very real, they did not hide their emotions because they walked with the Lord. They displayed their foolishness and let the Lord rebuke them. The disciples were angry that as they were getting things ready for Jesus, they were not being accepted by the people. Why was there opposition yet they were doing the work of the Lord? They felt personally hurt by the Samaritans and even wanted the Samaritans to know who they were really rejecting. However, the scripture says that Jesus had resolved to go to Jerusalem. They were rejected because He was headed elsewhere. If they were accepted do you think they would have opted to stay?
Romans 8:28 (NIV)
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
There is a purpose that He has called you to. May the sideshows not get you tired and distracted but may your focus remain on the destination. Anger and resentment can rob you of the joy you need to soldier on and hang in there.
If the side shows have drained and distracted you it is not too late to get back.
Set your eyes on the final destination, the place that the Lord desires for you to go.
Have a blessed weekend.
14 Nov 2013
in Family, Friendship, Intimacy, Life, Marriage
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, Friendship, love, Marriage
I met a very interesting group of ladies a few days ago. Most of them have been married for a couple of years(i.e 5 years to over 15 years). It was diversity at it’s best.
As we talked one of the ladies who has been married for more than 15 years said, the best advice that she can give to young ladies who are yet to be married or newly weds is:-
Start as you wish to continue.
She gave an example of a young lady who got married and decided that she would be the ‘best wife’ ever. She resolved that every morning she would wake up and prepare a big breakfast for her husband. She would warm her husbands water, take it to the shower and as he showers she would iron his clothes and lay them out on the bed in a way that they are very easy to wear. As he dressed she would pack his snack and lunch. When her husband was all dressed and ready to go, he would go to the car and start hooting to let her know that she is making them late.
When this lady had a baby, she could not keep up with this routine. She was barely keeping up before, now, the lil’ one became the boss, her world literally revolved around him. He was her schedule. She tried to continue with her ‘perfect’ record but it was difficult to remain super woman.
One day in frustration she called an older lady to tell her the woes. The older lady a mother of 5, picked up the phone and chuckled slightly. She could see herself in the younger lady, but she realized that one piece of advice or encouragement would set this young lady free.
Start as you wish to continue.
Many ladies get exasperated because they set very noble expectations of themselves, then share them with their spouses but are not able to deliver. When reality hits home that maybe they bit off a bit more than they can chew, they begin to start beating themselves up.
The rest of the ladies on the table had a few things to add:-
Delegate where you can. With a full time job it may be difficult to juggle everything. Discuss with your spouse what he would like you to do plus what you would like to do and then take it from there. It is easy to think that because you are not making a big feast for breakfast that you are not a good wife. However, at the end of the day, you need to decide what you are going to measure yourself by.
Marriage is an institution that differs with individuals. Spend time and get to know each other and take it from there. Some things may work for your neighbor but they do not have to work for you, pick what is useful and customize the rest to best suit you and your spouse.
Enjoy marriage, it is a beautiful journey :)
12 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Worship
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, faith, God, Jesus, religion
God’s greatest glory is in your passionate gladness in him- Sam Storm
Perhaps an analogy will help illustrate what this means.
Consider the difference between a microscope and a telescope and how it relates to our relates to our knowledge and enjoyment of God and what it means to glorify him. Both a microscope and a telescope are designed to magnify objects. So, too, are we. The Bible repeatedly calls on us, especially in the Psalms, to magnify the Lord: ‘Oh, magnify the LORD with me, and let us exalt his name together’ (Ps. 34:3; cf. 35:27). ‘I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving’ (Ps. 69:30). My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Saviour ‘ (Luke 1:46-47)
But there are two entirely different ways of magnifying God , one of which exalts him and the other which demeans him.
First, you can magnify God the way a microscope would. First, you can magnify God the way a microscope would, A microscope magnifies by focusing on something quite small, most often invisible to the naked eye, and causing it to look much, much bigger than it really is. This is magnification by distortion! This is not how we are to magnify God! Tragically, though, that’s how many Christians think of God and how they are to worship him. they think that in their lives and in their praise they are causing God to look bigger and greater and more glorious than he really is, in and of himself.
Worship is not like blowing up a balloon. God is not honored by human inflation , as if the breath of our praise enhances and expands his visibility and worth. To think that apart from our praise, God remains shrunken and shriveled is to dishonor him who ‘gives to all mankind life and breath and everything’ (Acts 17:25)
But you can also magnify God the way a telescope would. A telescope magnifies by focusing on something indescribably huge and massive and causing it to appear as it really and truly is. A telescope peers into the distant realms of our universe and displays before our eyes the massive, unfathomable, indescribable dimensions of what is there. only in this latter sense we are called to magnify the Lord. Of course, the analogy breaks down, as all analogies eventually do, because God is infinitely greater than anything you can see through a telescope. Indeed, he created and fashioned everything you can see through a telescope.
Sam Storm, One Thing (Scotland, Great Britain; Christian Focus Publications Limited, 2004),pp. 32-33.
I choose to magnify God like the telescope, that I may see Him as He truly is, The Lord God Almighty – worthy of all my praise.
10 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Patience, Purpose
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, God, Timing
On the third day, as the sun rose, Mary set out to check on her Lord’s tomb. When she went she found that the tomb was vacant. She run to where the disciples were staying and told them that someone had taken their Lord away. When the disciples went to investigate they found that the tomb was as the woman had said and they went back to the place that they were staying.
You can imagine their frustration: first their Lord had been killed and then His body had been ‘stolen’ from the tomb. This was like a bad dream that was not coming to an end. They were yet to understood the scripture that prophesied that He would rise from the dead.
Just because we don’t understand the scripture about the situation does not mean that it will not be fulfilled.
Now Mary stood outside the tomb crying. As she wept, she bent over to look into the tomb and saw two angels in white, seated where Jesus’ body had been, one at the head and the other at the foot. They asked her, “Woman, why are you crying?” “They have taken my Lord away,” she said, “and I don’t know where they have put him.” At this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, but she did not realize that it was Jesus. He asked her, “Woman, why are you crying? Who is it you are looking for?” Thinking he was the gardener, she said, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have put him, and I will get him.”Jesus said to her, “Mary.” he turned toward him and cried out in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” (which means “Teacher”). Jesus said, “Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’” Mary Magdalene went to the disciples with the news: “I have seen the Lord!” And she told them that he had said these things to her. (John 20:11-18 NIV)
Jesus says that His sheep know His voice. “The watchman opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice .” John 10: 3-4 NIV (emphasis mine). Mary’s spending time with Jesus meant that she was able to recognize his voice when He called her by name.
When you spend time with God there is no need for name tags. You are able to recognize each other.
Even in the dark situations remember that He is God and He is true to His word. Not seeing or recognizing Him does not mean that He is not present. May you hear His voice as He calls your name and see Him even in this third day.
08 Nov 2013
in Family, Friendship, God, Life, Patience
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, Friendship, God, Jesus, Timing
One day as Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 NIV )
Mary had chosen to partake of the Bread of Life and the Living water. In John 4, Jesus explained to the Samaritan woman that whoever drinks of the Living water will never thirst again. In John 6, Jesus declared that He is the bread of life, He who comes to him will never go hungry. Sometimes fasting is more filling than have a buffet meal. Preparations could always be done, but the Lord would only be in their home for a limited time.
Mary’s siblings were Lazarus and Martha.
This Mary, whose brother was Lazarus now lay sick, was the same one who poured perfume on the Lord and wiped his feet with her hair. So the sisters sent word to Jesus,“Lord, the one you love is sick.” When he heard this, Jesus said, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days, and then he said to his disciples, “Let us go back to Judea.” (John 11:1-7 NIV)
Mary, Martha and Lazarus were friends of God yet Jesus did not leave immediately. What situation have you been through where you have felt as though the Lord did not leave immediately?
After he had said this, he went on to tell them, “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep; but I am going there to wake him up.” His disciples replied, “Lord, if he sleeps, he will get better.”
courtesy of edydejun.blogspot.com
Jesus had been speaking of his death, but his disciples thought he meant natural sleep. So then he told them plainly, “Lazarus is dead, and for your sake I am glad I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him.” Then Thomas (also known as Didymus) said to the rest of the disciples, “Let us also go, that we may die with him.” (Verse 11-16)
I really love the disciples. Their response made me smile, they were giving their expert opinion ‘Some bed rest will do the trick.’ When we hear that someone is sick, our first response, is go see the doctor and get some rest. :)
On his arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Now Bethany was less than two miles from Jerusalem, and many Jews had come to Martha and Mary to comfort them in the loss of their brother. When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home. “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.”Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” Martha answered, “I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.”Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?” “Yes, Lord,” she replied, “I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, who is to come into the world.” (vs 17-27)
Even during the dark time, as Jesus had come ‘too’ late, Martha knew that the Lord was still Sovereign and able to do great things. When God has tarried it is so easy to give up hope, and sort of use the circumstance to measure His power, but whether ‘early or late’ He is still God. Your belief needs to be the same.
After she had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary aside. “The Teacher is here,” she said, “and is asking for you.” When Mary heard this, she got up quickly and went to him. Now Jesus had not yet entered the village, but was still at the place where Martha had met him. When the Jews who had been with Mary in the house, comforting her, noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her, supposing she was going to the tomb to mourn there. When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked. “Come and see, Lord,” they replied. Jesus wept. Then the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?” (Verse 28-37)
Our emotions touch the heart of God. We are friends of God and He is moved. During those low moments, He is there. He is truly close to the brokenhearted. People may speculate and ask if your God could have saved you from going through the hard time but He still remains God.
Jesus, once more deeply moved, came to the tomb. It was a cave with a stone laid across the entrance. “Take away the stone,” he said. “But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the dead man, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.” Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?” (Verse 38-40)
No situation is to grave for the hand of God. He is faithful and will move things for you. He is not afraid of the ‘odor of the circumstance’. If you believe, you will see the glory of God. He raised Lazarus from a deep sleep,in the same way, He can raise that situation from its grave state. This will be for the glory of His name.
07 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Purpose
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, faith, God
Mary had heard about Jesus, He was the talk of town. She too was the talk of town , her reputation was out there, everyone knew that she was the sinful woman of the town. She was rejected and sidelined but still, she longed to meet Jesus. When she heard that He was eating at a Pharisee’s house, she knew this was her only chance….
Luke 7: 37-45 (NIV)
37 A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. 38 As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.
39 When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet,he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.”
40 Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.”
“Tell me, teacher,” he said.
41 “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?”
43 Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.”
“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said.
44 Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet.
She was the sinful woman in town. Everyone knew what she had or hadn’t done…this affected how they treated her. Notice how the Pharisee thought to himself that she didn’t deserve to touch the prophet?
There are some interesting things to note about her interactions with Christ. A revelation that has changed my life.
1) His Feet
In those days, they didn’t have cars or public road transport, so you can only imagine how dusty Jesus’ feet were from all the walking that He did. This did not deter Mary from washing His feet. She knew that she was not worthy, she was the sinner of town but somehow He would still accept her.
Mary’s actions remind me of a song that we used to sing in the Youth Service called ‘No Higher Calling’
The first line of the song is ‘Down At Your Feet Oh Lord is the most high place.’
Mary understood that at the Lord’s feet was where she was the highest. This was the closest that she had ever been to Him.
2) Her Tears
She let herself be broken before the Lord. She did not need to speak or justify her sin. Her liquid prayers would communicate what was in her heart. Each tear was recorded in Christ’s book, none of them passed him by.
Psalm 56:8 (New Living Translation)
You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.
Courtesy of yatsar.wordpress.com
3) Her Hair
It is common to hear that a woman’s hair is her crown. Her crowning glory (Proverbs 16:31). For Mary she didn’t care that Jesus’ feet were dusty, that her crowning glory would become dirty. Her image was already tainted by the deeds that she had committed. Regardless of what she had done, she earnestly desired for the Lord’s glory. It was a turning point for her. From then on her life would revolve around bringing glory to the Lord.
3) Her Alabaster box
She didn’t have much but the Lord was worth her all. She didn’t have to work for years to be worthy of being in the Lord’s presence. She perfumed His feet. I don’t know about you, but even after a pedicure I do not perfume my feet. She poured very expensive perfume on His feet. To others it may have seemed like it was a waste of perfume, but to the King it was a sweet smelling sacrifice.
Mark 8:36 (NIV)
What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?
She understood that He was worth her all.
The Matthew account says that she did a beautiful thing for the Lord.
Matthew 6:10 (NIV)
Aware of this, Jesus said to them, “Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me.”
To Jesus, brokenness is beautiful. It is of much more value than coming with your act figured out, He wants to relate with you just as you are. He understands the language of tears.
That we may do a beautiful thing for our King.
06 Nov 2013
in Family, God, Intimacy, Life
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, faith, Jesus
Why do bad things happen to good people? I don’t know what the definition of ‘good’ usually is in this case and who the judge of good and evil is ; but this is a question commonly asked in times of adversity.
The bad things are the curve balls that life throws at people. Examples of the questions that are asked,
- “Why was my baby born with a disability?”
- “Why did that accident happen?”
- “Why did my mother, father or sibling have to die?”
- “Why did a loved one get sick?”
- “Why did I get sick?”
- “Why can’t I have children?”
- “Why did my spouse leave me?”
You know what you have been through. In the midst of it all, it is very possible to ask if the pain is a consequence of a sin that you or your parents have committed . The spiritual aspect usually dictates that you go and spend time repenting your sins and the sins that were committed by your ancestors.
When the Jesus and the disciples met a man who was blind from birth, the disciples did not hesitate to ask what the root of the problem was. Their question revolved around sin that had been committed.
John 9: 1- 2 (NIV)
As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”
Jesus’ answer was neither.
“Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the work of God may be displayed in his life.”
The Amplified versions says ‘so that the workings of God may be manifested and illustrated.’
Sometimes God allows the suffering so that His glory may be seen.
verse 6 and 7
Having said this, he spit on the ground, made some mud with saliva, and put it on the man’s eyes. “Go,” he told him, “wash in the Pool of Siloam” (this word means Sent). So the man went and washed, and came home seeing.
Perhaps the story would have been a little different if it was a blind boy who was healed. However, this man was born blind and had grown up being blind.
The Pharisees were intrigued by this miracle as it happened on a Sabbath, so they decided to investigate.
verse 15 – 18
Therefore the Pharisees also asked him how he had received his sight. “He put mud on my eyes,” the man replied, “and I washed, and now I see.”
Some of the Pharisees said, “This man is not from God, for he does not keep the Sabbath.”
But others asked, “How can a sinner perform such signs?” So they were divided.
Then they turned again to the blind man, “What have you to say about him? It was your eyes he opened.”
The man replied, “He is a prophet.”
They still did not believe that this is the same man who had been born blind and had received his sight. They decided to send for the man’s parents.
verse 19 – 21
“Is this your son?” they asked. “Is this the one you say was born blind? How is it that now he can see?”
“We know he is our son,” the parents answered, “and we know he was born blind. But how he can see now, or who opened his eyes, we don’t know. Ask him. He is of age; he will speak for himself.”
He is faithful. At the appointed time, for the glory of His name, He will turn the ‘mud into a miracle’. Some may question when the miracle comes to pass, but your miracle will be your personal testimony that truly He is more than a prophet, He is God.
05 Nov 2013
in God, Purpose
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, God, Obedience, Timing
How did we get to November so quickly? Not that I am complaining, it is just that, time is flying. It was July just the other day.
November has a way of making you feel like:-
a) Christmas is around the corner \o/
b) The year is ending SOON
N.B there is a difference between a and b :)
Christmas is around the corner
‘What is the plan?’ is the question of the month. Food, Fun and Family tend to be the theme of the season. It’s interesting how back in the day the focus was more on Christ. All the children in the estate would go around singing Christmas songs. O Holy Night :) There was always a play about Jesus in the manger ,yes, some were rather cheesy, all in all, you left there with Jesus on your mind. Even the cartoons revolved around the birth of Christ. Now, let’s just say Christmas is more commercial.
The year is ending SOON
Printers are starting to make calenders and diaries for the new year. Soon resolutions will be the talk of town. It is easy to set new goals without re-evaluating your progress on the already existing goals. There are goals that we set according to the patterns of this world then punish ourselves when we do not achieve them.
It is a case of Chronos versus Kairos. There is an ideal standard that the world has silently set. These set of standards differ in communities. A few years ago in the rural setting it was early marriage. I remember when I was getting married the question used to be ‘why are you getting married so young.’ The society has set an ideal age for people to get married and if you defy the norm, well, there is a problem. Other examples of goals guided by norms are, ‘I need to have done my masters by the time I am 25 years old.’ ‘I need to be married by the time I am 35 years old.’ ‘I need to have children by 37.’ The list is endless….the world has a pattern for everything.
The main illusion that makes one not move from Chronos to Kairos is that God will stifle them. However, it boils down to what they really believe about God. Do they believe that God wants the best for them or that He this being that only wants to stifle them?
Romans 8:28 (NIV)
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.any times it is possible to have desires that you don’t think God thinks are important.
So …..what is the yard stick anyway? What are you measuring your success by? Adhering to the patterns of this world can be detrimental as it robs us of the opportunity of living in the fullness of purpose. The patterns of the world prescribe a way for us to do things as if the world knows the purpose that we were created for; the path that was designated for you as an individual.
As this year draws to a close, my main concern is whether I have remained in His will. His will is paramount. There are many sacrificial things that I could have done, but they are irrelevant if I have not walked in obedience. Thankfully, it is not to late to re-align fully to His plan.
My resolution is to be where He needs me to be.
Obedience is truly better than sacrifice.
04 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Marriage
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, Jesus, Samaritans
Courting is such a beautiful experience. The engagement is just the beginning of the journey. I remember when my husband (fiance then) proposed. I almost swooned with joy :) There were so many thoughts running through my mind…I mean, he actually wants me to be his wife! Yes, we had talked about marriage before, but HE WAS ACTUALLY PROPOSING. Playing out the scenarios in my head was very different from the actual engagement. The actual engagement won hands down. The engagement ring was my reminder that he was going to marry me. I still smile as I remember that day :) . As we counted down, I wanted to spend more time with him and get to know him more. It is only natural considering we were going to spend our lives together.
Last week I read a really good book called ‘Dreams and Visions: Is Jesus Awakening The Muslim World’ by Tom Doyle. It is a re-count of different Muslims who have converted to Christianity after a visitation from Jesus. Yes, Jesus had visited them personally in their dreams. They described such peace when they met Him. He was such a gentle, caring man. He told them that He loved them. Many of these women are married but they say that the love Jesus has for them is different from anything they have ever experienced from their spouses. The encounters with Jesus made them want to know about God and Christianity.
Mombasa has many Muslims. Those who convert to Christianity tend to be ‘on fire’ for Jesus. They are true evangelists who are hungry for God. They believe that everyone should receive the revelation of Christ. This reminds me of how Jesus had a chat with the Samaritan woman in John 4. This conversation changed her life and she could not keep her mouth shut. As a result, many Samaritans believed in Christ and many sought Him.
verse 39 -42 (NIV)
39 Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” 40 So when the Samaritans came to him, they urged him to stay with them, and he stayed two days. 41 And because of his words many more became believers.
42 They said to the woman, “We no longer believe just because of what you said; now we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this man really is the Savior of the world.”
Encountering Christ has a way of leaving a lasting impression (the duration that the impression differs). The Church is the bride of Christ. The reason this blog is called Bibi2Be is because I acknowledge that the Ultimate groom is coming for me. The day is drawing near. I can’t get too engrossed in being married to a man and miss out on courting the son of man. To think that He left the Holy Spirit as our engagement sign, a comfort that He is coming back. My experience courting my husband made me reflect on the fact that I wouldn’t want to be married to someone I do not know. Spending time with Jesus is imperative. He is really sweet. I would not want to miss out on the aspects of his playful, disruptive and extravagant personality.
My Husband’s prayer is that he may present me to Christ in splendor.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
He really is the ultimate groom. Each passing day is a day closer to His return, oh that He may find us ready. The way ladies prepare for their weddings, how much more should we prepare for this great wedding. The day is drawing nigh.
Have a blessed week ahead :)
03 Nov 2013
in God, Life, Patience
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, Beach, Boats, Ocean
I really like going to the beach. The breeze at the ocean is such a breath of fresh air…well salty air but fresh all the same :). Sometimes the ocean is happy and so nice to walk by, other times it is calm and reading a book at the beach is the perfect plan, but other times the water is super choppy especially when the tide is strong, it almost looks like it is in a bad mood and just wants to carry everything in its way. Try leave your flip flops on the beach and you will see.
With all the traffic in Mombasa it really is about time we had water buses or even transportation speed boats. They would really be an efficient way to get to town compared to the congested roads. The heat in the traffic is just disgusting let alone the time wasted in traffic, sigh. Speaking of water transport…..
Last week as I read about the story of Jesus walking on water, something struck me..
John 6:16-21 (NIV)
16 When evening came, his disciples went down to the lake, 17 where they got into a boat and set off across the lake for Capernaum. By now it was dark, and Jesus had not yet joined them. 18 A strong wind was blowing and the waters grew rough. 19 When they had rowed about three or four miles,[a] they saw Jesus approaching the boat, walking on the water; and they were frightened. 20 But he said to them, “It is I; don’t be afraid.” 21 Then they were willing to take him into the boat, and immediately the boat reached the shore where they were heading.
[a] about 5 or 6 kilometers
After they stopped being afraid and let Jesus enter the boat they reached their destination IMMEDIATELY. They did not continue to row their boat (read: toil in the flesh) , letting Jesus in meant allowing His power to transport them to their destination.
I don’t know what your storm looks like. It may seem as though, like the disciples, evening has come and you have had to leave shore without Jesus physically showing up. The Lord is faithful. Even though the strong wind blows and the rough waters make the 5 or 6 kilometer journey difficult, His presence will get you there instantly. Regardless of what the storm seems like, He will defy logic and gravity, and calm the storm.
Happy Sunday :)
02 Nov 2013
in God, Intimacy, Life, Society
Tags: #NaBloPoMo, circumstance, Marvin Sapp
‘I will not allow what I see to hinder what I believe.’ – Marvin Sapp
That is a quote that I have come to love :) . It is so easy to let our circumstances shake our beliefs. Yet truth does not depend on our circumstances.
The story is told in Luke 8 of the sower who was scattering his seed and it fell on four surfaces:-
- the path
- the rock
- the thorns
- the good soil
I would like to focus on one surface – the thorns.
verse 14 (NIV)
‘The seed that fell among the thorns stands for those who hear, but as they go on their way they are choked by life’s worries, riches and pleasures and do not mature.’
Circumstances tend to choke the seed. We know that the Living God is faithful, that the earth and all that is in it belongs to Him and that only He can satisfy. However, when life’s worries come in to full play it gets harder to believe. There is nothing new under the sun but life, oh my, it can really ‘re-invent’ worries and make them seem unique as though the circumstance is an exception.
Living in Mombasa has made me aware of all the witch doctors and seers who advertise their services. If it is not ‘Mganga wa Ramli’ it is ‘Mganga wa Kioo’. So many people here, Christians included, seek the services of these people. It is actually quite common to hear people talking openly about witchcraft in public places. At first, my husband and I were very shocked….I mean, where we’re from, it is not everyday that you hear people talking about taking each other to visit the ‘spirits of the water’ so that they can get things. Now…we realize that it is more rampant than we thought. The drive to consult these mediums is just another one of life’s worries, riches and pleasures. Life’s worries may vary from person to person…sickness, lack of money, loss of a job, marital problems, loss of a loved one. The list is endless.
When I get overwhelmed I have learnt to take time out and go to a place that reminds me what is true; my beliefs. I believe that God is the Living God. I believe that He is bigger than every situation and that no situation can define Him. A couple of months ago I was really overwhelmed and stressed, I went to a place that reminded me how big God is. I left there so encouraged. Just hearing the ocean hitting the wall was so refreshing. The circumstance hadn’t changed but I had been reminded the reality of my beliefs.
So as Marvin Sapp says, I will not allow what I see to hinder what I believe.
A friend of mine says that it is not possible to get stressed when you live in Mombasa with the ocean right around the corner. The ocean is a display of God’s splendor. It has a way of putting things into perspective but I challenge you that God’s splendor can be seen everywhere. It is in the sunrise and in the sunset. All it takes is a change of focus. Regardless of the circumstance … He is God. I refuse to be choked by things that do not change my Master’s standing. He is, was and will always be the Living God. Instead I choose to Praise Him In Advance.
Praise Him In Advance -Marvin Sapp
Have a blessed weekend.
24 Oct 2013
in Family, God, Intimacy, Marriage, Patience
Tags: faith, Hebrews 11, love, Marriage, religion
Abraham’s obedience made his name synonymous with faith. I mean faith that is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen according to Hebrews 11. Romans 4 paints a picture of how his faith was credited to him as righteousness. However, we don’t often think about what life was like for Abraham and Sarah as a couple especially as Sarah followed her husband.
We are not told if, for instance, it was harvest time in Sarah’s kitchen garden when it was time to move. By virtue of her being married to Abraham and faith being their lifestyle, theirs was a tent mentality. Where God needed them to be is where they were.
Marriage joins two people and they become ONE. Essentially, this means that where the husband leads the wife follows. It is easy to say that ‘in those days Sarah didn’t really have a choice; she wasn’t empowered and living in the age of school and Google.’ Neither was Abraham, his desire to serve and follow God was genuine. Now in the age of school and Google it is easy to hide behind ‘empowerment’ as a woman and fail to walk in faith and follow in faith. As a ‘Sarah’ following your ‘Abraham; it means that you trust his walk with God….lest you follow him ‘blindly’ out of God’s plan for your lives.
As a ‘Sarah’ in this day and age, it is easy to be so fixated on the things that your physical eyes see and get distracted from the path that the Lord has called you to.
2 Corinthians 5:7 (NKJV)
For we walk by faith, not by sight.
I remember the day that my husband told me that we were relocating, because I trusted and still trust his walk with God, I knew that I would follow him in the move. The Lord confirmed it to me and there was peace that surpassed all understanding. The peace helped us focus on God and not on the appearance of the circumstances. Looking back, I realize that it is easy to get fixated on one step of faith that seems really big at the time and forget that since life is a journey, well it is a good idea to take another step of faith, better still, view faith as a state of being; a lifestyle. The steps of faith did not stop at relocating, moving town was great but there was an assignment that the Lord had sent us to undertake that still needed to be executed daily.
A good example of faith as a lifestyle is Abraham moving from Hanan to Canaan to Negev….if he had gotten comfortable in those steps of faith he would not have later realized that the Lord required him to sacrifice his son and obeyed.
James 2:26 (KJV)
For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.
Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV)
But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
Hebrews 11:7 (LEB)
By faith Noah, being warned by God about things not yet seen, in reverence prepared an ark for the salvation of his household, by which he condemned the world, and became an heir of the righteousness which is according to faith.
My prayer is that we will, in reverence to God, respond to the things that He tells us though they are unseen. That our lifestyles may be those of faith accompanied by works as we walk obedience.
12 Sep 2013
in Family, Marriage, Society
Family is commonly referred to as the ‘backbone’ of society.
Society is having a serious problem with its spinal cord. It can barely sit ,let alone, stand. To a large extent it is slowly falling apart. All you need to do is watch news bulletins for one week ….errr… half an hour and then you will see what I mean.
The family institution is falling apart. Marriage and family have lost their credibility…so has society. Reminds me of the Cain and Abel story. Once Cain killed Abel, there was a shift in society. ‘Wanderers’ were introduced. The reality is that God had and still has a plan for family but we reap what we sow. What happens in the four walls of homes affects what happens in the four walls of establishments.
The Nature versus Nurture debate is one that has gone on for years. Are you born with an empty slate or with innate knowledge? Regardless of how you answer that question family plays a big role.
A few weeks ago, two mothers had a debate on why they will send their children to boarding school at a tender age. The conclusion of the hour long conversation is that they wanted society to teach their kids because they did not feel that the family institution was adequate. The irony…..
We need to realize that the family institution is being fought and the battle is reflecting in society. Family is God’s idea. Now, generations are at stake because the family institution has crumbled. There are many theories on why this ‘cookie’ crumbled, however, it is not too late to start fighting for family.
If we realized how crucial family is in society, it would change how we treated others in regards to family. Some work places regard family as baggage. The rationale usually is that if you have a family you cannot commit and are not to be trusted as much, then the frustration begins….
When I got married I decided that family would always come first. This may mean different things for different people, for some working two jobs, others going abroad to study…the list is endless. For me, it has meant stating that my family comes first at the beginning and not minding losing the opportunity because I choose not to work late into the night.
The bottom line is, once we respect the family institution and work on it, we will see the effects in society.
23 Aug 2013
in God, Life, Patience
Things never happen by chance.
God always has a plan and works in the background. Regardless, of the circumstances, the difficult job….home situation….He is working things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose #8:28.
The God who took you there does not slumber nor sleep. He sees each and every victory, each and every loss, each and every smile and each and every tear. He cares and has not forgotten.
In the book of Esther, Mordecai told Esther something that made her realize she was not just put there to sit and look pretty, I mean as a queen that was her J.D HOWEVER there was a bigger reason for her position in the palace.
Esther 4:14 ( Amplified Bible)
14 For if you keep silent at this time, relief and deliverance shall arise for the Jews from elsewhere, but you and your father’s house will perish. And who knows but that you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this and for this very occasion?
Many times God places us in places to work undercover :) A Covert mission. E.g your desk job being a cover job for prayer or evangelism in the workplace.
The Covert mission does not always go unnoticed. Sometimes there are people who realize that your undercover mission is to let your light shine and they make it their job to frustrate you and make you quit. The important thing to remember is that He who took you there is faithful to save you and sustain you.
Now, what if He doesn’t save you?(Please note this does not in any way reflect on His strength)….Like Shadrack, Meshach and Abednego may the thing that you stand for be one worth standing for and dying for. Remember the furnace, we stand in awe of the Fourth man, the ‘Son of Man’. That the cry of your heart may be similar to Esther’s ‘If I perish, I perish’
Your positioning gives you something to leverage on.
Where is it that God has placed you?
Considering that there is a bigger purpose for your position in this place, what is the cry of the ‘Jews’ around you?
What can you do so that relief and deliverance may come to them?
Stand up, creation has been waiting in eager expectation for you the child of God to be revealed.
27 Feb 2013
in Elections, Kenya
Tags: faith, Kenya, psalms 91, shadow of the almighty
I can smell uncertainty in the air. Left, right and center people are going for shopping to stock up ‘just-in case….’ (we all know how that sentence ends.) The supermarkets are getting fuller by the day. Planes are getting fully booked by the hour. Don’t get me wrong, I can understand that it is wisdom to stock up, However….
Allow me to digress for a bit. A friend of mine, known as @alanosucre on Twitter, wrote a song that blew me away. It is called ‘Strong Tower’. The words of the chorus are:-
The Lord, is a strong tower,
The righteous run and He saves
Our God, He hides us,
In the shadow of His wings
This song is very profound. It is based on Proverbs 18:10 and reminds me of Psalms 91. As I have been praying for Kenya I have realized that UNLESS we run into the shelter of the Most High we are NOT safe, only there can we enjoy Rest in the shadow of the Almighty. There have been so many prophecies proclaimed by prophets, whether good or bad, the reality is that the shelter of the Most High is where our hope lies. Instead of focusing on the bad, we need to RUN IN TO THE LORD’S ARMS AND BE SAFE.
The Bridge of the song is:-
Lord, help me find the way,
lead me to your heart
As a nation we have been in a time of repentance, calling out to God and asking Him for forgiveness for our sins and those of our leaders. However, unless the Lord leads us to His heart, our hearts will not be broken by the things that break His. As a result it will be difficult to approach Him with a ‘broken and contrite heart’ (…Psalm 51:17) yet the yard stick of a broken heart is one broken by the things that break God’s heart.
Back to my story, last week I drove around an area in my city and I realized that while many are going around taking advantage of the Tusky’s offer on food stuffs, majority of the citizens can BARELY afford to put food on their tables for one day let alone walk in to a supermarket and stock up for months to come. When is the last time you put food on one of their tables?
Psalm 127:1b (NIV)
Unless the Lord watches
over the city,
the watch men stand guard
Let our security BE in Christ, not in money or food reserves because those two are fleeting.
The name of the Lord is a strong tower,
the righteous run to it and are safe.