Cocktail of Balance

No two households are the same, that is what makes marriage a cocktail of balance, it is half-cup of what you love, a dash of what you both like and half-cup of what your spouse loves, sprinkled with some happiness. You and your spouse may have been raised in the same town, estate and even gone to the same school and church but once you shut the front door, the law of the house prevails. Your parents rule the empire.

When Peter and I were dating, we talked about pretty much everything under the sun, well, many things under the sun, the things we haven’t talked about I trust that we’ll have many more days by God’s grace to discuss. One of the ‘hot topics’ was birthdays, where I shared my expectations based on the culture in our home. His family didn’t use to celebrate birthdays, you could easily forget a birthday, while we in the Mbugua household used to countdown to birthdays, it was an annual excuse to binge on calories and get presents.

Our tradition in the K household has largely been influenced by my expectations, remember the cocktail of balance? This is the cocktail at work. Over the years, my expectations and traditions have changed. It’s become less of an outward celebration and a lot more of introspection, sort of like new years eve for many people. The eve or morning of my birthday is a time of quiet reflection where I thank God for the year that has been, start a new journal and set one goal for the year.

Last week as I ushered in a new year, my heart was filled with gratitude. Looking back at the year that was had me in tears, I was so overwhelmed by the Lord’s goodness and sustenance. Part of my reflection was choosing contentment.

Over the last year, I have watched my contentment seep through my fingers because I’ve been too busy looking around me to really see what was in my hands. ‘Happiness is an inside job’, you can have ‘perfect’ conditions and still be unhappy, it’s a choice, a deeply personal decision to rejoice regardless of the circumstances.

‘Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but who can survive the destructiveness of jealousy?’ Prov 27:4

Many times I blame the devil for my discomfort, but to be honest, many times I am unhappy because I’ve brought it on myself. I chose to admire the grass over the fence instead of asking myself how I can best grow my grass.

I’ve adapted a verse for this year, ha! it sounds cliche, but let’s see how it goes, ask me next year, won’t ya?

My goal is to stay within the boundaries of God’s plan for me (adapted from 2 Corinthians 10:13b NLT)

Psalm 16 is one of my favorite Psalms, for me it embodies accepting God’s perfect will for my life, acknowledging that He loves me and cares for me while choosing to thrive where He has placed me.

I do not know what the new year holds, but I do know He who holds me.

Here’s to contentment by choice.


Lessons From My Daughters (Pt 8) Love, Life & Sisterhood

We celebrated five years of marriage a few days ago. Where did time fly to? It’s a both short and long time. I will do a marriage post soon, I have to keep up with the tradition:). I can’t wait to read the compilation when we celebrate ten years of marriage by God’s grace.


As I write this, I’m wearing heels for the first time since I gave birth, Ksena says that they are my dancing shoes, so she helped me put them on. She saw some pictures of us during our wedding and she thinks that I am a princess. It’s so sweet. I’ve not refuted her claims, after all I am a Daughter of the most High King. What a beautiful reminder, that I need to put my dancing shoes on and dance to the music of life.

The K girls have blossomed, and I know that this is just the beginning but it is such a joy to watch them grow. In the coming months, Ky will be mobile and it should be interesting watching her follow Miss K, or not. I love that they are fond of each other. When Ksena wakes up, after her prayer she asks where her sister is. When Ky sees her she gives her a big toothless smile and chuckle. Ky has figured out that some days Miss K leaves her at home. Last week, she wailed when she saw me going to pick her up and we ended up going together.


There is a sweet sisterhood bond being formed here and I am super excited to see it grow and stick. As usual, these girls are teaching me a lot about life, faith and peace. This past week, I was a student in Miss Ky’s little class.

Where are they?

Ky loves to go outside. If you take her to the door she will prompt you to open the grill door, and take her out. Yesterday, we all went out and she was ecstatic as we walked out. She loved every second of being outside, the breeze and the branches swaying made her smile. She enjoyed watching Ksena and daddy run around. When it was was time for her and I to go back to the house, she kept craning her neck to see where Ksena and daddy were. Even as we closed the door she kept looking back and mumbling.

Leave no man behind.

An almost 7 month-old baby, demonstrated what it means to deeply care for and love someone. You need to check on them and see where they are.

I had a conversation with Peter two days ago about the importance of praying for people who are yet to receive salvation. And I wrote a list of people that I have committed not to ‘leave behind’.

Do not pass me by!

Ky is super alert, she knows who comes in, when they come in and when they leave. Every time that hubby passes by Ky, she immediately puts her hands up and starts mumbling to get his attention. If he doesn’t carry her or acknowledge her she gets upset and starts crying. She has learned how to cry with her eyes closed for emphasis 🙂 . I’m not sure where she picked that from.

When I’m home, I have to hide to write, because once she gets her eyes on me, she wants me to carry her immediately. Waving hi is not enough. Nah, she wants the full shebang. Now that I’m there, she is suddenly thirsty for milk.

It reminds me a lot of my walk with God. In fact the song that comes to mind is, ”While on others thou art calling, do not pass me by.” In many ways, I am just like Ky, it could have even become a daily prayer, that ‘Yes, Lord I can see you, and I would like you to call me by name and lift me up’. Ky reminds me that it is okay to call out. Just because I spent one hour with Him earlier doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t still desire Him. I pray that I will always look to Him to satisfy me.

I’m currently enjoying playlists by Worship Mob.

‘I want to know your heart!’

Have a blessed week,


By His Grace, For His Glory

AND..I’M…BACK!!!!!! (: (: (:

It is so good to write again, it feels like it’s been too long since I last posted. I’ve been in a wedding zone, two of my friends of mine got married in the last two weeks. It’s been interesting watching them journey to the aisle. It was quite nostalgic, plus, we celebrated our 4th anniversary last week 🙂 . It’s been a short long time. I remember the wedding day vividly, it’s amazing how much we’ve changed since. We’ve both grown as individuals and in our roles as well.


As I’ve reflected on marriage the last couple of weeks as I’ve engaged in different conversations about marriage, weddings and relationships, I’ve found this statement to be the best summary of our union.

‘By His Grace, for His glory!!!’

We are married in a time where the world doesn’t honor and respect the institution of marriage. Being happily married is honestly a miracle. By God’s grace we are. We’ve seen God carry us, sustain us, fulfill us and love on us. It is His Grace that has brought us this far, for His glory. There are many marriage practices and theories that people attribute to a happy marriage, but I can boldly say that without God you still remain void. It is He who holds us together [Colossians 1:17] By now you’ve figured that I absolutely love this verse. It is a lifeline for me.


Marriage works, with Jesus it does. We used to wonder out loud a few years ago that if marriage with God in it has its challenges, what about marriage without Him? Quite frankly, I am still not interested in finding out how it works without Him (: .

If you have given up hope on marriages in our generation, please be encouraged, a remnant of God’s grace remains, for His glory.

My heart has been so heavy for marriages the last couple of days, as I have been praying this song has been my prayer.

If your marriage is in a dark place that has discouraged you and made you doubt God, I pray that you will experience God’s divine peace. Oh that the Spirit of the Lord will break out and break down every wall down. Every wall that has boxed you in and held you captive. May revival come, His kingdom on earth as it is in heaven. There is nothing too difficult for God. No situation too dark or bleak for Him. He is God.

If you would like me to stand with you in prayer, please send me an email via and we’ll trust God together.






Lord, Convict Our Hearts

I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage the last couple of days. Our anniversary is coming up and I have friends getting married in the next couple of days. I’ve been asking myself what my desire of God is this coming year regarding marriage.

As I prayed, I asked the Lord to convict my heart on a daily basis. To show me the things of darkness that have perched themselves in my heart, the thought patterns that do not conform to the patterns of His word, the unkind things I’ve said and done and then lead me in the war everlasting.

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Only He convicts and then leads in the way everlasting. His voice is not condemning but rather loving.

Marriage is about BEING ONE. In this day and age, being one has lost meaning. Many times it is ‘my way or the highway’ but you can’t have two people convinced they are right. There needs to be a compromise, a deal breaker. A heart softener who convicts and sets you on the right track.

The longer I’m married, I become increasingly aware that I will be answerable for my individual actions. If I don’t respond in love, that’s on me. I will stand and give an account for all my actions. By your grace Lord, may most of them adhere to your plan and loving grace over my life.

If you feel your marriage has plateaued or could be deeper and better, I encourage you to ask God to first convict you and lead you in the way everlasting. Then he can convict your spouse’s heart and lead him/her too.

Jesus is the glue that holds us together, Col 1:17. When we exclude and ignore Him we draw apart from each other.


Marriage was designed by God. If you have questions and concerns about it run to Him, speak to Him and then listen.

It’s been a wonderful adventure the last couple of years. I want more of Jesus and more years of adventure with my  ❤

There is nothing too difficult for God. No situation too far gone for His redemption. Run to Him and allow Him to breathe life into that dry situation, according to His will.




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When Sex Hurts

Sex is supposed to be synonymous with pleasure. Sometimes, it is not, and pain takes the place of pleasure. Over time, it is possible for this to strain a marriage. One of the symptoms of Endometriosis is pain during or after sex. Pain during sex is seldom talked about and many women and marriages are suffering in silence. In honor of Endometriosis Awareness Month, I asked Maggie Gitu , a Marriage and Family Therapist and Sex therapist to expound on what to do when sex hurts because of endometriosis or adenomyosis.

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Sex is one of the most important and fun ways for married couples to connect. Painful sex, however, is no one’s idea of a good time. Painful sexual intercouse, also known as dyspareunia, is the persistent pain that occurs during or after sexual intercourse. Dyspareunia can occur as a result of a variety of issues such as insufficient lubrication, trauma, surgery or physical conditions such as vaginismus, endometriosis or adenomyosis. Endometriosis is caused when tissue that lines the uterus grows outside of the uterus, while adenomyosis happens when uterine tissue grown into the uterine wall. Both of these conditions can interfere with sexual intercourse.

While the presence of endometriosis or adenomyosis can interfere with a couple’s sexual pleasure, there is no need for sexual intimacy to cease altogether. So what’s a couple to do?


It may sound cliché but it’s absolutely true. It’s important for a couple to communicate openly and honestly about what is happening in their marital bed. Even going for doctor visits together would be helpful in allowing male partners to hear the information directly from a qualified medical professional, which may increase their understanding and empathy for their female partners.

It is also important to allow room in the marriage for honesty: room to speak honestly about the challenges of having to deal with a condition, irritation at having to avoid certain sexual positions that you would want to try but can’t because of the pain to the partner, the guilt or shame that is common with partners who feel like they are being denied the sexual adventures they imagined they would have. Remember that these feelings are about the situation, not the person. The bottom line is that openness and honesty will be crucial if a couple is to enjoy their sex life.

 Lose It:

Lose the guilt, because none of this is your fault, and even when/where you could have done better, now you can because now you know better. Lose the blame; again, this serves no purpose in enhancing the intimacy in your marriage. Accept that this is the situation that you’re in, find a competent doctor to work with you and move forward determined to enjoy your sex life together, inspite of a diagnosis of endometriosis/adenomyosis. Lose the bad attitude; it’s going to destroy your sex life, which will in turn negatively impact other aspects of your marriage. Lose anything and everything that will interfere with your ability to connect as a couple. If you need more support, more information, or additional medical intervention, all you ever have to do is ask, so ask! Your doctor will advise you on all the options that are available. Lose the pressure to be perfect; sex is about connection, intimacy and fun not an Olympic performance with a score board. Relax into it; remember that you are not alone, and there is help and support to be found for those who take the time to seek. 


When it comes to sex, attitude is everything. Even without the added challenges of endometriosis or adenomyosis, the attitude a couple has about the kind of sex they want to have really does make all the difference. Instead of seeing these conditions in a strictly negative light, try to challenge yourselves on all the positive things that can come out of this, for example, the sexual positions that you hadn’t even thought to try might be exactly what you need in order to have sex life that you want.

Experiment and Have Fun:

Sex should be fun, so make it fun and experiment. As a couple, be open to different sexual positions, for example, while the missionary position may be painful for some women, it may be easier for you but you’ll never know unless you try. In addition, begin to figure out what sequences work best and which ones are best left alone e.g. some women find it easier to begin with one sexual position and then move on to other positions while some find that maintaining a single position is easiest on them. The point is, experiment! Make a game of it by coming up with a funny ranking system that you can both look forward to contributing to; be sure to add an exciting reward system 😉

Part of experimentation is understanding that sexual intercourse is not the only way to enjoy sexual intimacy. In other words, what are your sexual limits? What are you willing to try, even once? Developing your own sexual ‘playlist’ as you seek to increase your repertoire can be a fun way to take the pressure off by focusing on what feels good, not what ‘should’ feel good. With the right attitude, the issue may no longer be what the couple can’t do but instead be all the things they haven’t – yet. The sexual repertoire is endless so experiment and find out what works best for you.

A happy healthy sex life is vital for any couple and despite having a diagnosis of endometriosis/adenomyosis, it is achievable with communication, the right attitude and a sense of fun.

If you would like get in talk more with Maggie, you can reach her via , +254 734 757 785 or @MaggietheMezzo .



Home: Our Safe Space

I was away from home for a couple of weeks. It’s great to be back to our little haven. 70bf8f4215597ee953ba14b7d3875411

This saying is not always true though. For some, home is a place they dread to go to. Some people, come just in time for bed and leave before sunrise. While others, avoid home all together.

It is easy to shift the blame around for being unhappy and feeling unsafe at home when you are living with your family of origin. You can blame marital problems, abuse; the list is endless.

It is a different ball game all together once you get married.

Your marital home is your home away from home. A place where together with your spouse you get to set the rules and break them if you like. You take responsibility for your actions and decisions.

A safe space doesn’t just happen. It is more than the combination of colourful walls, tasteful furniture and beautiful China. It is a conscious decision made daily to make the home a safe place.


The world is brutal. Every warrior needs a place he can take off his armour, put down his sword and just be vulnerable. ( Please keep on the sword of the spirit though.)


After a couple of days of living with your spouse, you figure out what they like and don’t like. You know their soft spots and raw spots. This information is power, you are informed on how to irritate them on one hand and be a blessing on the other hand.

Leave judgment and comparison at the door. The world offers these in plenty. There is no need for an extra serving at home.


Put a guard over your mouth. The truth is that not everything you think must be said. Avoid the temptation to keep repeating yourself like a broken telephone. In the beginning it is reiteration, after a while it is nagging. In all things, speak life. There is power in the tongue. Don’t be a prophet of doom. Speak life.

Make your home inviting. Find something that makes your home homely for you. Make it a place that you look forward to going to.

”What is said at home stays at home.” Trust is an important aspect of a safe space. No one is perfect, and no one likes to have their faults announced to the public. Be a confidant.

Proverbs 14:1 (NIV)

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Pray. Invite the Lord’s presence and wisdom into your home. Read His word and let Him show you how to make your home safe. In Him we find safety.

Proverbs 24:3 (NIV)

By wisdom a house is built, through understanding it is established.

All in all, keep Jesus at the center. In Him we find all that we need. When in doubt ask the Spirit.


If your marriage is in a dry place, may the Lord refresh it. If your home is currently a hostile place, I pray that the Lord will minister to you, heal your heart and show you how to make it a safe space.



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The S Word



The second S word in marriage, after S.E.X.

A couple of years ago, before I met the hubster, I used to hear this word and shudder. In my mind it was synonymous with ‘to be seen and not heard’. To operate like a submarine; chini ya maji. Looking back, the marriages around me as I grew up were not the perfect poster children for submission.

Submission remained such a grey area in my heart and mind regarding marriage. It was the main weakness in my SWOT analysis of marriage. It translated to weakness, period. Why would a perfectly capable woman go in and agree to be somebody’s ‘door mat’? My rationale was skewed; the root was a wounded heart. What I saw growing up had become my reality.

When I begun dating my husband, I asked the Lord to renew my mind and show me His truth regarding submission. If He created it to be beautiful then there ought to be something that I was missing. Little did I know ,not only did I need a renewal of mind, but a change of scenery as well. I had been staring at the wrong picture for far too long.

He begun to open my eyes to marriages around me that were doing it differently. I still found that within my circle, submission was subtly explained but not expounded on. So I went into marriage with a good understanding in theory of what was expected of me ,and a vague understanding of what it translated to in marriage; enough to let me know that I didn’t have to blend in with the furniture or wait to be addressed before I spoke. No submarine tactics :). Over the years, God has given me a better understanding of what submission is.

Our society has conditioned us to do things because something else has been done for us. ‘ Because he provides for the home, you should serve him when he enters the house.’ The cause and effect is all wrong. Life may throw a curve ball like sickness, and accident, loss of a job and he may not be able to provide, does that mean the submission would come to a stand still until he provides again?  We shouldn’t submit because of what our husbands do but because we know God.

It is so interesting that as Paul gave his instructions for conduct within the home he always started by instructing the women.

Instructions for Christian Households.

You wives must submit to your husbands, as is fitting got those who belong to the Lord. Colossians 3:18 (NLT)

It is sad when Christian Households borrow a leaf (or the whole tree) from Hollywood regarding how wives and husbands should relate. The bible is quite clear; it should be our yardstick. It may seem ‘boring’ because it is black and white and doesn’t advocate for coloring outside the box BUT it is all for our good. It saves us.


Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands

And further you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24 (NLT)

Submission is a result of what Christ did for us; it is our response to the cross in our homes. -Kui Kimemia

The title is Spirit Guided Relationships because it only works if you let the Holy Spirit lead you. At the end of the day, when Christ comes back for His church we will give an account of our lives as individuals, not as husband and wife. On that day, may we not need to play the blame game like Adam and Eve did in the garden.

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A man who is not in submission to God may lead you astray. Do not submit blindly; Christ must remain the center. Let His Spirit lead you so that the devil will not deceive you.

In conclusion,

Do not stifle the holy spirit. 1 Thessalonians 5:19 (NLT)

Amplify the volume on his receiver and let Him be the voice of reason in your home and life.

Submission is a beautiful thing when done the way that Christ intended it. It allows the wife to blossom in Christ.

For the husbands: remember to love your wives as Christ loved the church.



Love is…

Nobody likes to be sick.

The most challenging part about living with Endo is that it is a pain on the inside. It doesn’t really have an outward manifestation so you cant say ‘look I broke my hand’. This makes it hard for people to understand how one can be in pain yet look okay. Over the years I have heard all sorts of things regarding Endometriosis. In fact one of them that still gets to me to date is ‘all women have painful periods so you should take some painkillers and get over it’. Yes, Eve ate the apple et al BUT that does not mean periods are supposed to be painful.

Moms, if your not so little girl says her periods really hurt listen to her and believe her. Then find a way to ease the pain and find the root cause. Don’t wait to be prompted by a complication. Yes, there are normal period pains. Endometriosis is not normal period cramps; if it were many women would not rush to the emergency room in pain. Take time to understand Endometriosis and share the information, you could help another woman.

Hug an Endowarrior. Let her know that she is not alone. Take her out for a smoothie (knowing what I know now, the coffee should be taken in moderation.) If you can go for her doctor’s appointments with her, please do. Lord knows waiting rooms are not filled with hope and joy but the opposite. (Also, don’t volunteer to take her when you are in a hurry, let’s just say, doctors rarely keep time or are called into emergencies when you are the next one in line).

Today I want to celebrate my special friend who doubles up as my hubster :). He has sat with me in hospitals for too many hours to count – man, in another life I would probably be a doctor smiling all the way to the bank. He has prayed with and for me, wiped my tears; loved me through it all even when it got ugly and I felt ugly. Hormones! never underestimate the power of these little things. They can take you down a very dark path. He has shown me that the vows ‘in sickness and in health’ can be a reality. You can choose to love in hard circumstances.

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You came into my life at the right time. Truly, two are better than one; when one is weak, the other can be strong. When I am weak, you are strong. I love you!

Thank you for not leaving my side.

Maybe one of these days I’ll ask him to write about Endo from his point of view :).




Hormones, Mirrors and Marriage


I didn’t know how powerful these little chemical signals were until about a year ago. Even before I put the puzzle together and realized I was carrying a little human, they showed me how much havoc they can cause.

You see, I always thought that pregnancy meant a yummy glow. What I got was more like a severe blow from hormone central. ACNE! I am familiar with acne, we became acquainted in my teenage years and as much as I was hoping that our relationship would be short, it continued for too many  years. I thought that pregnancy would be my ‘big break’, shock on me! My T-zone decided to expand its boundaries and bring a friend along, eczema :(.


When the acne finally subsided, somebody pumped my face with air. I am not exaggerating. My nose became puffy..err..larger than it is on a normal day. Thank the Lord it came back to normal :).

I was so used to sleeping on my tummy that I couldn’t imagine anything else. When my honeymoon period ended, I realized that I needed to adapt quickly. The growing tummy did not leave any room for negotiation, sleeping on my side was my only option.

The cravings; they deserve a whole blog post. They were as diverse as they get. What I loved one day could repulse me the next. It was quite ridiculous looking back. However trying to understand cravings logically is quite the wrong approach to understanding the power of hormones.



Initially, the acne and eczema would really bother me and I would spend a considerable amount of time examining them in front of a mirror. Looking back, I wish that was what it took to eradicate them completely. One of my mirrors in my house was not as ‘cruel’ as the rest, I assume it has something to do with the angle and lighting. It showed me what I wanted to see, i.e it was not that bad. It was my consolation base.


marriage-2 I dare say, if you don’t want to see the real you, don’t get married.

*Marriage is like a magnifying glass into your soul. You can change certain aspects of your spouse and marriage but if you don’t change within, then it is pointless. Sometimes the problem is not the mirror but the person looking into it.

Cleaning mirrors is a delicate process – at least if you don’t want to scratch them. Admonishing your spouse should be done gently. They may look tough on the outside but something you do or say could leave a lasting scratch or mark. Too much pressure could break them.

While you work on your self, pray for your spouse, not the other way around.

*Every pregnancy is unique and so is every marriage. Don’t believe everything that you hear, sometimes the glow comes a couple of months later but it does not negate the beauty of the journey.

*Just like my nose, the small issues may seem very big at some time, but after a while they go back to their normal shape and size :). Don’t sweat the small big stuff.

*Adaptation is key. Don’t be so rigid. Sometimes life leaves us no choice but to change. You learn on the job, even I who swore by sleeping on my tummy had to learn the balancing act on my left side and I survived. Nothing lasts forever, you may dislike the season at first but it too shall pass.

*Pass on the knowledge. Share the little pearls of wisdom that you pick along the way with someone else.

*Don’t assume that you know everything about yourself or your spouse. Each passing day, you are both changing. What you like now will not be what you like a couple of years down the line. Cravings taught me this important lesson. My shopping list would change bi-monthly, if hubby made the mistake of not clarifying what I currently liked, he would end up having to partake it himself.

For the precious ladies getting married this month, the countdown is ON. May God go ahead of you. May you enjoy your big day and the countless sleepovers with your bestfriends.



The Marriage Challenge

I remember planning my wedding like it was yesterday. I used to sit and dream about what I wanted on the day. Choosing the color scheme was my favorite part; because I couldn’t decide on two or three so I chose all six of them :).

Wedding planning reveals to you just how precise you can be. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder traits may rear their heads. Even those who never cared much about certain things may find themselves being quite passionate about the small details.

Then comes the wedding day, after all the planning, not much is within your control. You can’t be saying your vows and making sure the food is ready at the same time, well unless you are a super hero of sorts. On the day, you have to let go and let God (well, and the people running the show behind the scenes).

At the end of the day, you can evaluate the event, but even if the caterer failed on his part there is not much you can do. Yes, you can complain, demand for a refund and flood social media platforms with your experience, but at the end of the day if the food sucked, it sucked.

Fast forward to marriage, days turn into weeks, weeks into months and months into years. The best part is that marriage is a journey. Calculate how much time you spent planning for the wedding: reading marriage blogs, visiting wedding vendors, committee meetings, site visits etc. It amounts to quite a bit, unless of course you rocked up at the AG’s and had a short and simple ceremony.

Now think about how much time you spend setting goals for your marriage and planning action points?

A couple of days ago, my hubby and I started taking about where we want to see our marriage at the end of 2015. The conversation ended in us coming up with a small challenge that we shared with some of our married friends to do and their feedback was very good.


Discuss and write down two aspects of your marriage that you would like to see grow in 2015. Break them down in to quarterly action points.

Examples of aspects are: communication, financial health, fitness and health, friendship, time management, giving, travelling, learning new skills.

An example is:-

Goal:- To be a fit and healthy couple; to lose/gain x Kgs by the end of the year.

1st Quarter

Go for a full body checkup; exercise together three times a week; eliminate sugar/white carbs from diet

2nd Quarter

Eat out less often; try out new healthy recipes at home

3rd Quarter

Climb Ngong hills; climb Mount Longonot; climb Mount Kenya

4th Quarter

Run 10kms weekly ; run a marathon together.

Growth is intentional. The end result may seem impossible in January but the little baby steps will help you achieve it.

Philippians 4:13 (NIV)

I can do all things through him who gives me strength.

With God all things are possible. Take it a day at a time and review the action points every quarter.

Enjoy your marriage;  may 2015 not just be like any other year, may it be bigger and better. May December find you and yours at a better place by His grace.